Annie, welcome to our little corner of the world.
I would concur with the other posters, who suggested getting a second opinion On the slides, push your husband to do so. It may not make a difference, then again you never know.
My biopsy was originally graded Gleason 8 (3+5) high risk. On second opinion, I was downgraded by Epstein and Johns Hopkins to G6. Turns out, after looking at the whole prostate after removal, I was in fac G7(3+4).
But the second opinion told me that I was NOT high risk. Grading PC is a very subjective process, two pathologists can look at the same slide and call them two different things. That's why we recommend Epstien, or David Bostwick.They are the acknowledged experts and only look at Prostate Slides, as opposed to most local pathologists who may be generalists, looking at breast slides one minute, and prostate the next. Even those who are genutoury pathology specialists, will look at prostate slides, and bladder slides, and other similar cells.
Convey the reasons for getting a second opinion, and he might see his way to agreeing.
If it turned out he was (3+4) it would be a fair difference.
In either case though, please know that this is treatable, and a good likelihood that it will be curable
Dx Age 64 Nov 2014, 4.3
BX 3 of 12 cores positive original pathologyG6, G6, G8 (3+5)
downgraded to 3+3=6 by Dr Epstein, JH
RALP with Dr Ash Tewari Jan 6, 2015
Post surgical pathology – G7 (3+4), ECE, Margins, LN, SV all negative
PSA @ 6 weeks 2/15, .<02, 4/15 <.02 7/15 <.02, 10/15 0.00 (new lab) , 1/16, 0.00
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