You've found a very supportive and informative network of folks right here. We're here to support you and your father.
We all understand the emotions that you are describing --- you and your sisters and your father are all reeling from this sudden news and unexpected turn of events. We've all been there, to some extent, in one form or another --- at first, you feel like you've been thrown on a merry-go-round or perhaps a roller coaster ride --- and you didn't even buy a ticket to the amusement park, right ?!!
So --- it's time to get your family members together to form a TEAM to support your father in all of this. He's going to need your guidance and support, every step of the way. From what you've posted, it sounds like a diagnosis of advanced prostate cancer. There are many of us right here that share in that same diagnosis along with your father --- I am one of those fellows myself !
To be honest, your father is going to need some top-notch doctors on his case. Assemble the best medical team that you can. You are waiting on more diagnostic testing results right now, but you need an expert medical oncologist, at the very least. Since you mentioned that you are from Texas, is it possible for you to get some expert medical advice and treatment from M.D. Anderson Medical Facility, located right there in Texas ? They have a renowned reputation across the country for top-notch medical care.
If you are seeking a top-notch medical team, you should seek a specialized UROLOGY ONCOLOGIST. There are thousands of urologists in this country, along with thousands of oncologists, but a UROLOGY ONCOLOGIST specializes in advanced prostate cancer cases like the one you are describing in regard to your father. We all deserve the best care we can find, so seek out an expert for your father who SPECIALIZES in prostate cancer.
We can continue to provide feedback and advice, as more information on your father's case is determined by further diagnostic testing. It's quite likely that additional imaging scans and diagnostic tests will be requested, to determine the full extent of your father's case --- whether there may be metastatic prostate cancer located in bones, lymph nodes, or other organs besides the prostate. Over time, I have been given an initial prostate biopsy, followed by MRI tests of the prostate, skeletal bone scans, pelvic scans, abdomen scans, PET scans, and bone density scans --- over the course of time since I was diagnosed. A battery of tests will likely be ordered in your father's case to pinpoint exactly where the cancer may be located in his body. This information will help your father's doctors determine a course of action --- a plan of attack --- a treatment strategy.
Getting a treatment strategy in place is helpful, because then you start to feel like you are combating the cancer. To be honest, you and your father will be entering a "battlefield" quite soon --- so, arm yourself with information and research --- and gather your courage, determination, and resilience as a family to help your father as he begins his treatments.
As more information in your father's case is learned, it is quite likely that your father will start a series of hormone shots. In prostate cancer, male testosterone "feeds" the prostate cancer, and the hormone shots will deplete the level of testosterone and help to "starve" a portion of the prostate cancer cells to death. The second line of attack that will likely be suggested will be a series of chemotherapy treatments to help attack other remaining cancer cells that are resistant to the hormone deprivation shots. There are a LARGE number of us here on this forum who have experience with the hormone shots and also chemotherapy treatments, including me.
There are also newer breakthrough medications that may also come into play in your father's course of treatments. Many of these new breakthrough medications have emerged within the past decade, and many of them have emerged in just the past five years. These new breakthroughs in the field of prostate cancer have already helped thousands of fellows, including me.
So --- further diagnostic assessment and testing will reveal a course of action for your father's case. Immediate treatments will likely follow, to start attacking your father's prostate cancer. As you learn more about
his situation, you can continue to post updates here --- and our members here can continue to offer their advice and wisdom --- and to share their experiences with certain treatments and medications.
More than anything else, it's important to stay positive and focused on the future. Yes, you are entering a battlefield --- so gather your inner strength, courage, fortitude, and iron will. All of your family members need to get out their suits of battle armor --- polish your silver shields --- sharpen your swords --- mount your white horses --- and emerge onto the battlefield, with your new strategy of attack that you form with your father's doctors as your allies in this battle.
It's important to remember that your father will need your encouragement, love, and support above all else. Your family members and your father's friends become part of his support TEAM, along with his doctors. It's important to maintain HOPE and to realize that there are many success stories that have been shared right here over the course of years !
Encourage your father to maintain his usual activities --- hobbies, interests, and social life --- to the fullest extent possible. I realize he is dealing a sudden diagnosis, and is just starting some new treatments lately --- but staying connected with family, friends, and faith, in whatever form that may take for your father --- is very important.
Forge a tight, connected bond and relationship with your father's doctors and medical team. He will be meeting with them frequently for additional tests, diagnostic procedures, and treatment consultations. Communicate
openly with your father's doctors --- form that bond --- give honest feedback --- write down important questions before each appointment. Great doctors become LIFELINES in all of this ...
Meanwhile, we are right here to encourage you, to support you, to lend a bit of advice, and provide a sense of solace. Continue to stay in touch with us --- keep posting --- keep us informed --- and let us know how your father is doing. We're all in this together !
Sent with my best to you and to your father, from across the miles,
Iowa State "Cyclone"
PSA At Diagnosis In Year 2013 : 138
Initial Diagnosis: Advanced Prostate Cancer, With Metastases In Both Lungs
Age At Diagnosis: 48 years
ADT Treatments: LUPRON, FIRMAGON, and currently ZOLADEX
Subsequent Treatments: Chemotherapy Treatments (TAXOTERE) & now ZYTIGA
Additional Medical Consultant: Dr. Eugene KWON - Mayo Clinic
Current PSA: Consistently < 0.50, With Treatments Ongoing
Post Edited (ISU-CycloneFan) : 4/5/2016 4:52:30 PM (GMT-6)