Sorry you did not know about
the service, the link to that info is in the Lupus forum.
The service was rather small, which I'd expected because most of her friends & support group were online the last 10 years. Family that had not really listened to how sick she was were there - too little, too late. I knew too much of the back story to have much sympathy for them.
I was glad to see that 8-10 friends of her daughter showed up - (I was only slightly older than Nikita when my mother died; she was only slightly older than Barb, also after a long illness; then ('84), my friends had no clue what to do or say so they just ignored it.) These similarities were part of why I went; Barbara hoped Nikita & I would bond.
Barb's long time cardiologist, a commander and the highest ranking of her Drs showed up, which I guess is unheard of. A couple of people Barb knew thru PT, a couple of long-time friends Barb & Bill knew thru the military. Bill made a photo collage video he intends to put online, I'll post the link when I know it. (/www.youtube.com/watch?v=G--PCAP2feU
I, too, am really missing her. My world had shrunk to 4 people that I talked to regularly, she was one of them. I suppose it's a sign that I need to get back out into the world... easier said than done.
I will think of you on Thursday -- just do it, don't think too much about
it. Remember it's the overall result you are after, not the cosmetic bits. I had similar feelings about
a facial skin cancer I had removed a few months ago -- really preferred the cancer over the scar I've been left with! I know it's nowhere near the same level of intensity, but I get the sentiment.
Post Edited (Lynnwood) : 4/12/2016 3:19:57 PM (GMT-6)