Yes, I remember giving you some feedback/advice on a question you had while developing wording in your Advanced Directive.
From your prior post:
You seem to be describing a family member who goes off half-cocked pushing all kinds of last-ditch medical efforts.
"Half-cocked" overstates the situations I spoke of. I think a couple things were quite clear from these situations I observed.
First, they clearly had NOT had the valuable but difficult conversation about
advanced directive wishes. As I said in that email to you previously (above), it is mainly about
TALKING (and documenting) about
your wishes with loved ones.
Second, they were so caught-up in the situation they could not see the forest through the trees...this is different than "half-cocked." They thought they were being focused; the New Yorker article I quoted above said it this way: "They remain riven by doubt and fear and desperation; some are deluded by a fantasy of what medical science can achieve.
" In the HW/PC case I recall (maybe you do too, without being more specific?), there even was a doctor "General Lee" who stepped forward compassionately, but they disparaged him/her as "not caring" when in reality the doctor cared greatly for the patient.
I do fear that these I've observed situations lead to a sadness and regret later...one that could be largely avoided with the Advanced Directive. On the other hand, in my wife's case, we may have made some other mistakes along the way in her 14-month journey, the the end-stage decisions—as tough as they were at the time—are one of the things I can actually feel good about