Over time, we've lost some of our loyal friends on the forum to prostate cancer.
I've seen the fellows here expressing their feelings of loss --- and missing those who used to be active contributors here on the forum. As I read back over some past threads, some of our members here stated that they were truly feeling SURVIVOR'S GUILT ... the loss of a friend, involved in the fight.
I thought it might be helpful, now and for others in the future, to express some of our first-hand experiences with SURVIVOR'S GUILT ... specifically ... lost friends, family members, work colleagues, community members, or forum members ... I think the experience known as SURVIVOR'S GUILT emerges AFTER you face a diagnosis yourself and THEN lose someone who was also involved in the battle ...
In my case, I now feel much more CONNECTED to others who have cancer, since my diagnosis. I've lost three teaching colleagues who taught next to me for many years ... losing them was very hard on me, to say the least. Recently, our school district lost one of our young students to cancer ... a tough loss on the entire community, beyond words ...
I now have long-time friends engaged in this battle ... friends from different chapters of my life ... they are my BAND OF BROTHERS ... we've lost BROTHERS here over time ... others may not understand the comraderie and kinship WE feel towards one another ... when we lose a friend in this fight, it can take an emotional toll ... as many of us have experienced, past and present.
In my case, coping with the loss isn't an overnight process ... I try to find ways to honor their memory, in some meaningful way ... that seems to help me honor their memory and cope with my own feelings of personal loss.
Over time, I also realize that continuing to FACE FORWARD and to keep REACHING OUT to others in this battle is valuable ... in person or through this website ... this becomes another way to honor the valiant fight of others we have lost.
Many of our members here report feeling a sense of loss ... emptiness ... true sadness at the loss of a fellow friend in this fight ...
I thought this might be a meaningful thread topic ... a chance to learn from each other and share ways to cope with the loss of our friends and comrades we encounter along the way ...
Your thoughts ? I know we've all faced some losses, over the course of time ...
Sent with my best, always,
"CYCLONE FAN" ~ Iowa State University
PSA At Diagnosis In Year 2013 : 138
Initial Diagnosis: Advanced Prostate Cancer, With Metastases In Both Lungs
Age At Diagnosis: 48 years
ADT Treatments: LUPRON, FIRMAGON, and currently ZOLADEX
Subsequent Treatments: Chemotherapy Treatments (TAXOTERE) & now ZYTIGA
Additional Medical Consultant: Dr. Eugene KWON - Mayo Clinic
Current PSA: Consistently < 0.50, With Treatments Ongoing
Post Edited (ISU-CycloneFan) : 7/19/2016 4:36:35 PM (GMT-6)