I am 6 weeks post surgery and this is fresh in my mind. So, hoping for the best but planning for the worst, I'd say your two best choices are:
• Stay the first week at a convalescent care facility, if it's of decent quality.
• Stay at your own place but have a live-in caregiver, after having stocked your home with all of the recommended supplies.
I would not impinge on a friend, unless you saved his life in Vietnam...
I was released after one day in the hospital, I wish it were two days. The cath was my biggest issue. The drive home was two hours and if I wasn't zonked out on pain killers it would have been horrible. BTW, figure out if they will give you real or baby painkillers. Because of the opioid crisis they may not want to give you the powerful stuff. Beware of that. For the 5 hour drive, break it in two parts, rest a good hour somewhere. Have an ice bag and a cooler of ice.
I had planned on watching a lot of TV and reading but could not stay still for more than 15-30 minutes due to discomfort and I was told to move every 15 minutes to avoid the dreaded blood clot. For me, bending over was difficult, the cath was a real ball and chain. Those first 6 days were horrible and I could not sleep well. It's good you have a recliner, bring a lot of little tables next to it and buy a Grabber. The recliner needs to have your groin area higher than the cath tube so gravity will take the urine into the bag. Otherwise, you'll get a back up and troubles, so in the recliner you may need to place sofa cushions? The cath tube is all important. I got mine out in 6 days because I was whining so much.
Here's a thread I started that you will find useful:
You can find more post surgery tips by using the search box at the top of this page.
So in sum, several of the posters had an easy time, yet it's prudent to consider the worst case scenario and a friend is a friend, not a quasi nurse/wife.
P.S. You're on the fence re:
open vs Robotic. I'd suggest robotic at the largest hospital possible, preferably a teaching hospital by a dr not too young, not too old, who has done 3000+ operations.
open seems to be done by older docs according to my research and there's more loss of blood. My .02¢
Post Edited (Nick2017) : 8/27/2017 7:27:19 AM (GMT-6)