You've heard the most common half-truth in the PC business--and the one that makes our collective blood boil. That you can't do salvage surgery after radiation. Which is mostly true. Surgery after radiation is very difficult and challenging, because the tissues have been cooked. However, it is the implication that comes with it: That there are no salvage options after radiation. That if radiation fails to cure, there isn't anything else you can do. Which is so much BS.
Also note that you were told that by, guess who? A SURGEON. Who wants to do surgery. Who doesn't know much more beyond his OR. Who can't really speak to what the radiation oncologists do, because he's not one of them.
With high risk disease--and listen to the guys in here who started with high risk cases--many, many men with high risk disease went for surgery, found out the surgeon had to 'cut wide', and wound up with permanent ED and permanent incontinence. Many men also went for radiation, which comes in multiple flavors, and are alive--and cancer free--years later without significant ED or continence issues.
We encourage every newcomer to consult not only with their diagnosing urologist (who is always a surgeon), but with other treatment experts in other modes of treatment, to find what is truly the best fit for them and their situation. Please do so, and give them an honest hearing. If you and he ultimately choose to do surgery--we will support you through that process, it's not always bad (I'm a surgery guy who has no issues 3 1/2 years later).
Age at Diagnosis: 56
RALP on 2/17/15, BJC St. Louis, Dr. Figenshau
58.5g, G3+4, 20%, 4 quadrants involved
PSA 3/10/15: 0.10
My Story: www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3300024