Dman, the downgrade is awesome news. The 4+3 raises your risk slightly. That being said, you're making some good moves. Asking the company doctor for referrals is a great idea--he has no particular axe to grind.
The great thing is, you have time to make a reasoned decision. PC is not like other cancers, in that it gives you time to decide and consult. Brachy with external boost is a great therapy, many have had good luck with it. It will take care of the lymph nodes too.
An apical tumor IS harder to treat--for surgeons as well as radiation oncs. It might be better to go radiation (wider treatment area) with the apex tumor. I'm sure more opinions will roll in. One problem with having medical folks in the family is that they think they know more than they do: Cut it out now is the classic reaction--but it's not always the best choice.
I'm a surgery guy, and I'm happy with my choice. I did take time to research and make a solid decision based on what was important to me at the time. You owe it to yourself to do the same. And, I hope you can sit down quietly with your wife (especially) and friends and explain that their reaction isn't helpful: you need to slow down and make a reasoned decision, not an emotional one.
Age at Diagnosis: 56
RALP on 2/17/15, BJC St. Louis, Dr. Figenshau
58.5g, G3+4, 20%, 4 quadrants involved
PSA 3/10/15: 0.10
My Story: www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3300024