FWIW, I thought I'd add parts of edited sidebar conversations that I had with one or more of the mods.As I don't have their permission, I'll only present my side.
Words are my business, and I know how framing can affect how we think about
things. Once we take disease out of biology, we turn it into something it is not. It is much healthier to deal with things as they are (a lesson of Mindfulness). War metaphors create an unnecessary winner/loser distinction. Those who think they are fighting the good fight are setting themselves up to be a "loser" at some point.
What I (until now) held myself back from stating publicly (because of Godwin's Law
) is that "blaming the victim" is often used with the Holocaust. Both my parents were the sole survivors in their families of the Holocaust, which perhaps makes me over-sensitive to this. Here's a conversation that takes place in Art Spiegelman's Maus II:
Shrink: So do you admire your father for surviving?
Art: Well...sure. I know there was a lot of LUCK involved, but he was amazingly present-minded and resourceful.
Shrink: Then you think it's admirable to survive. Does that mean you think it's NOT admirable to not survive?
Art: (whoosh) I think I see what you mean. It's as if life equals winning, so death equals losing.
Shrink: Yes, life always takes the side of life, and somehow the victims are blamed. But it wasn't the BEST people who survived, nor did the best people only live. It was RANDOM.
Randomness is intolerable. I, of all people (being a writer), understand the human need to shape the world with a narrative structure. I know that we tell ourselves stories in order to live, but in doing so, we give those stories power over us. There are always unintended consequences to falsifying the stories of our lives.
Allen - not an MD
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