Here's an article by a woman who, as a physician as well, has had metastatic BC, and expresses her thoughts on some of the issues that have come up in this thread.
She doesn't deal so much with the semantic issues, as we have been doing, but her thoughts seem relevant, and maybe helpful.
The article is "I Am Sorry I Didn't Beat Cancer," (linked below) and some of her thoughts are
"... it felt like a failure as if I let down every one who thought I would (beat it)."
"As a doctor I understood that it was nothing that I did, to bring back my cancer. But I still felt a sense of shame."
" Besides coping with my illness, I was sad that I lost my “credibility” as a cancer warrior who had “beaten” cancer. I was not longer a “success story.”
Then she closes with the words
"And then I realized I really don’t need to “beat cancer.” I have to, however, beat life at its game, one day at a time. I am sorry I didn’t beat cancer but now it really doesn’t matter because I am busy kicking life and showing others how to reconcile with stage 4 breast cancer."
Her words get us no closer to an answer to this debate, if there even is one, but I think her sentiments do contribute to the discussion. /www.huffingtonpost.com/uzma-yunus/i-am-sorry-i-didnt-beat-c_b_10801274.html
Chronic prostatitis (age 60 on)
BPH w/ urinary obstruction, 6/2011
Ongoing high PSA, 7/2011-12/2011
Biopsy, 12/2011: positive 3/12 (90%, 70%, 5%)
Gleason 6(3+3), T1c
No mets, PCa likely still organ contained
IMRT w/ HT (Lupron), 4/2012-6/2012
PSAs (since post-IMRT): 0.1 or lower