I haven't been on this forum in 4+ years. I saw DaMayor's post and I couldn't stop reading.
I'll say this, DaMayor... This is a MONUMENTAL decision. There are no takebacks. I live everyday with the decision I made and I would've done it differently if I had to do it over again. Like you, like most everyone, you feel pressured and panicked to make a quick decision. That is the wrong way to go especially in your case. I was Gleason 7 and told my cancer was "aggressive". Out of fear of death and leaving my wife and kids behind I chose RALP.
Today, I live with some side-effects that are maddening and huge quality of life killers. I wanted to do watchful waiting and I should've but was "too afraid" as the uro said I'd be dead in two years if I didn't act. I had the procedure and then my post op pathology revealed quite the surprise. A tame Gleason 6 cancer down from an aggressive 7 from biopsy. I could've and should've waited. I felt fantastic and as a strong person of faith believed I should've waited but for ....fear....and fear is a liar.
You are a person of faith. Breathe, brother. It should comfort you to know this experience of yours has been repeated millions of times by guys just like you, however, this experience is yours and yours alone. Advice is great but ultimately NOBODYS cancer experience is yours and you have to watch out for those who try to take you by the hand and tell you that you're just like them. You're not. Everyone's experience and journey while similar in some regards is never the same.
I spoke to a few guys on this forum when I was last active here. It was a great experience for me and for them. If you need to talk, I'd be more than happy to talk with you. If you want to email questions, and I mean ANYTHING, you should've seen the questions I got from people about
the experience and post surgery things.
Only here to post about
something bothering me 5 years later and I happened to be captivated by you and your story. I'll not claim God put me here this day for your sake but I wouldn't say that's not a possibility.
You can find me at: (personal info deleted by moderator) My name is John. You're on my prayer list now.
This will consume your thoughts and every waking second. I lived it like we all did here. Again, I can't stress enough the perspective from today looking back vs. just being diagnosed is beyond a 180 difference but you'll never know this until you experience it yourself. God bless. Rely on your faith and use this as a wakeup call for a lot of things.
Have tears in my eyes as I type because I can feel your "pain".
John, I had to delete your email address because the site owner asks that we not include such personal info in the body of posts due to spammers/scammers. Please make sure your email address is current in your profile - I noticed it was different from the one you posted - then DaMayor can contact you. BTW, great and very helpful post for any new member. Hope you will stop by more frequently since your first hand experience can be a great help to others. Jim
Hey Jim...I remember you from my initial visit here. What a blessing you are to this site. Glad you're still here.
that. I probably shouldn't have posted it. I looked and had forgotten I'd created a special email address to interact with folks from the site. I couldn't access that email today as it has been years. Google wouldn't allow me back in with several hoops.
Post Edited (Inchoation) : 11/29/2018 12:22:58 PM (GMT-7)