My wife and I talk
openly and usually pretty dispassionately about
my PCa, but there are limits. She's tough, practical--spent a number of years as a hospice volunteer. She knows, but doesn't like to be reminded, that with or without my PCa she's likely to outlive me by a decade or more. Every once in a while she gets overly worried about
the future, which usually means it's time to both sit down at my computer and review our income, expenses, investments, etc., which usually restores perspective.
Also, for both of our sakes as we get on in years, we're putting a fair amount of money and effort into our house over a couple of years -- e.g., we've had chronic problems with ice dams and were over-due for a new roof. We just put on a new aluminum-shingle roof instead of asphalt. It was a lot more money but it should eliminate the ice dam problem and the roof will long outlast both of us. We had a new heating system and tankless water heater put in a few years ago. Next year we'll have the house painted and have some of the cedar shingles and a few clapboards replaced. The goal is to have all of the likely major maintenance work done and paid for within the next 3 years or so.
Aside from that I've told her I've begun assembling a few documents with details about
how to find my logon information for all of the ton of things that require id and password these days. This is the bridge to far - more than she wants to talk about
in detail. I've parked a cheat sheet in an obvious place that I keep updated with dates how-to info on domain name renewals, etc. (we - meaning I - maintain several web domains for several projects we are both involved in). And keep a printout in our fire safe with our wills and healthcare proxies.
Still to-do is making some kind of list of all the household and car maintenance info that I take care of. Not the least of which is the ever-growing number of networked devices, home network, central back-up drive, VOIP telephone service, recovery from computer crash issues etc., which she has solved for many years by asking me to fix it -- even for things I've shown her how to fix many times before. I know there are things I can't control after I'm gone. But I'd like to know my wife isn't left communicating by post cards written by candlelight.
-2002-PSA 9.4, 5 of 10 cores 30-50%
-RP 2002 PT3B N0 MX Gleason 3+4 75% left lobe small focus rt lobe
-PSA low 0.01 slow rise to 0.4
-SRT 2010 1 lymph node targeted. Casodex during SRT
-PSA 0.00 thu 2014
-0.02 Oct 14; 0.04 Apr 16; 0.2 Oct 16; 0.51 Jan 17; 2.46 Jan 18, 4.19 Apr 18; 6.62
-May 18 start Firmagon; PSA 0.45 Jun; 0.08 Jul '18; 0.02 Sept '18
Post Edited (Bohemond) : 10/11/2018 1:36:35 PM (GMT-6)