I don't even bring up the fact that I have prostate cancer because of this, I just say I have cancer because the first few people I told that it was prostate cancer trivialized it so.
Yes, this is what I find so disparaging. And is what I tried to express in my first reply to this thread. PCa is seen by the general public AND THE MEDICAL COMMUNITY as being something less significant than having the flu.
And what has HURT me for so long is how MY UROLOGIST allowed my PCa to grow for four years by trivializing it, by leading me to believe that it was "nothing to be concerned about
" (in his own words). It was a very frustrating and emotionally trying period. And yes, I was expected to "suck it up" and act as though this was something 'normal' for a male.
Meanwhile, I was bombarded by advertisements for breast cancer. Not only that, but a general belief among the public that breast cancer IS THE ONLY GENUINE FORM OF CANCER. Not a breast versus prostate and not men versus women, but the anguish of my own concerns being ignored by a specialist, while the world focuses on a very common and (in most cases) readily treatable cancer just because 98% of the victims of that cancer happen to be women.
Anything beyond those sentiments were never intended by me. Others may have said so, or I may have misspoken (that happens a lot). Imagine if you were a woman,
you knew you had a serious problem "down there", but your doctor repeatedly told you that your pelvic is normal, your biopsy was negative, and your elevated bloodwork is "nothing to be concerned about
". All this while constantly seeing advertisements which imply that ONLY MALES ever get cancer.
Would that not, as a female, make you feel that your life is being trivialized?
In that regard, that is the only gender disparity I have brought up... And as I said, even my wife hates the fact that just because she is a female, everyone trivializes her lymphoma and assumes that she had breast cancer.