You're in a rough spot. I've been there--a number of years ago (2004). What are the doctors telling you?
This is a difficult topic, and one that none of us is ever prepared to consider. We, all of us, hate facing the reality that our parents are not going to be with us forever. If I may make a suggestion, get yourself a copy of Atul Gawande's "Being Mortal".
Also, what is your father saying about
it? Listen to him.
Age at Diagnosis: 56
RALP on 2/17/15, BJC St. Louis, Dr. Figenshau
58.5g, G3+4, 20%, 4 quadrants involved
PSA Non-Detect since April, 2015
My Story: www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3300024