Forum Rule 3 says, "3. No posts that attack, insult, flame, defame, or abuse others. Respect other members' opinions regarding treatment decisions. Decisions about
health and well-being are highly personal choices. We should respect all points of view. Flaming will not be tolerated."
In another thread, there was a reference made where a particular un-named surgeon was called a "snatcher", and then a response by another member about
how some seem to belittle other's treatment choices when they are contrary to someone's preferred mode.
This happens in here from time to time--and it's shifted around some over the years. Guys, one of the great things, IMO, about
this forum is that it is (most of the time) very supportive and (again mostly) about
sharing information and personal experience.
Although, reading through some of my early posts and the responses, I have seen this as well. I did my research and my plan, and chose surgery. I don't recall a single instance where someone told me that I was making a mistake and should have chosen differently. I'm not so sure that would apply today. I have also experienced threads where I was giving a newcomer information about
surgery, and my positive experience and positive outcome--and gotten pretty strong push-back that basically says that I'm an outlier and a rare case and so I shouldn't be encouraging others to do what I did. It's frustrating. I get it that we all have biases--and decision bias is a real thing.
Let's just remember what one of our primary purposes is: to guide the newcomer on the path--to remind them that it isn't the end of the world, to give them guidance on how to find the professionals they need to find, and then back off and let them make the treatment decision that is best for them, in their circumstance--which, really, none of us know about
. IMO, there is a significant difference between saying, "Here's what I did, and how it came out", and saying "Here's what I did, and you should do the same thing, and don't listen to what those others are saying."
Age at Diagnosis: 56
RALP on 2/17/15, BJC St. Louis, Dr. Figenshau
58.5g, G3+4, 20%, 4 quadrants involved
PSA Non-Detect since April, 2015
My Story: www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3300024