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Posted 3/29/2021 11:24 AM (GMT -6)
I have been medically retired for about six weeks now. I am starting to relax a little I guess. Financially we are OK so far. The first six months will be the hardest so there is light at the end of the tunnel. It’s weird being home because Mandy still works. Sometimes I don’t feel as though I have a lot of value. The house stays clean and most nights I get to be the chef but it is definitely been an adjustment. I have been trying to take care of honey do’s. It is a long list. My body doesn’t seem to hurt so bad anymore. I still get up every morning at 5o’clock and make coffee and today I made Mandy breakfast and rice crispy treats. Instead of putting them in a pan and cutting them up, I rolled them into little testicle size balls. They kind a look like rice crispy matzoh balls. I am loving the new house in fact I never want to leave it especially if it means going out where there are people. It’s not that I dislike people it’s just that I don’t have a filter and I’m certain to offend somebody. it doesn’t take much to offend people these days but everybody’s good at some thing and I seem to be good at running my mouth LOL anyway that’s about it just just a little update and a shout out to y’all
Posted 3/29/2021 12:08 PM (GMT -6)
My last day of work is April 3rd. I don't think retirement will be a panacea, but the stress reduction will be welcomed. Changes in routine, even positive ones, require some adjustment. Got my first vaccine shot Friday, so I'm hoping sometime this year to be out in the community with people again.

Overall, I'm convinced retirement will be good for me, and I'm looking forward to it. With my PCa stats, I'm takin' it while I can get it. 🙂

Thanks for the update Todd.
Posted 3/29/2021 12:09 PM (GMT -6)
Good to hear that, cooking is the fun stuff. I retired before my wife and it did not take her too long to figure out that she had a free laborer with nothing to do. The to-do list start growing and started including the not-so-fun stuff as the honey-do list was minimized. Then PCa diagnosis hit so I got a bit of a reprieve once the serious stuff started. Then she retired so back to normal after that. She was getting a little bitter near the end when she left for work and I was still drinking coffee and reading the paper. Good luck navigating this phase.
Posted 3/29/2021 12:34 PM (GMT -6)
My wife retired January 9th. I worked from home so we see each other every day in the morning for the first time in years. She's always on my back. "Why aren't you working?"( because I needed a hug). Looking in my office: " You aren't working are you? You're on Facebook." She finally got me to go back downtown to my office. So instead of working I'm reading and replying here. I'm down to afternoons only and thinking that is too much. Retirement really sounds nice to me.
Posted 3/29/2021 2:16 PM (GMT -6)
You sound very fragile...you need to listen to your self and get some help(other than HW)...this is one of those times when one is aging that I have posted about for others and general info for the forum...where you either bite the bullet...or spiral down...Ive seen it over and over again...81 gy would be a great template...as well that other guy you met once...back in the day
Posted 3/29/2021 3:10 PM (GMT -6)
I dont think I will ever look at Rice Krispie treats the same way again ;)
Posted 3/29/2021 4:05 PM (GMT -6)
I retired when I turned 60 after working for 42 years for 8 different employers. The adjustment was easy because for the the last 21 years I was a high school teacher and I never worked during the summers. I guess I was in training for retirement all those years.

My wife is a CPA with a home office so we see each other all day. That is except during tax season. Her clients come to the house and due to ethics and client confidentiality issues I am required to be neither seen nor heard when they are here. I go work in my basement darkroom or hangout in my mancave next door to it. Other times I am gone taking classes at the university, out for a run or taking pictures. And I have been known to take my sketchbook and spend some time at one of the local brew pubs.
Posted 3/29/2021 4:43 PM (GMT -6)
Hey Todd, about those Rice Krispy Motzah Balls - why didnt you mention that to me when we spoke? LOL. You know its Passover, right? I would have loved to try them. But alas, i have real motzah balls, had one for lunch. Rice Krispy Motzah Balls sounds great after that LOL.

You will do fine in retirement, you've got interests, hobbies, and you are active, thats a good thing. And eventually, a honey do list runs out of things to put on the list. LOL

Retiring last year is the best thing that i ever did. I went through a couple of stages. First i was happy as a pig in sh!t, playing golf, swimming, and just all around having fun every day. The stage 2, COVID arrives. Stuck in the house, seeing nobody, wishing, on some level, that i was working just to keep my mind occupied. Stage 3 was after i adjusted, found ways to keep busy, started learning guitar, trading the market, reading, etc. And now stage 4, post vaccine, even though things arent back to normal, i am enjoying lifes simple pleasures and thankful that i am retired.
Posted 3/30/2021 12:01 AM (GMT -6)

Todd1963 said...
I have been medically retired for about six weeks now. I am starting to relax a little I guess. Financially we are OK so far. The first six months will be the hardest so there is light at the end of the tunnel. It’s weird being home because Mandy still works. Sometimes I don’t feel as though I have a lot of value. The house stays clean and most nights I get to be the chef but it is definitely been an adjustment. I have been trying to take care of honey do’s. It is a long list. My body doesn’t seem to hurt so bad anymore. I still get up every morning at 5o’clock and make coffee and today I made Mandy breakfast and rice crispy treats. Instead of putting them in a pan and cutting them up, I rolled them into little testicle size balls. They kind a look like rice crispy matzoh balls. I am loving the new house in fact I never want to leave it especially if it means going out where there are people. It’s not that I dislike people it’s just that I don’t have a filter and I’m certain to offend somebody. it doesn’t take much to offend people these days but everybody’s good at some thing and I seem to be good at running my mouth LOL anyway that’s about it just just a little update and a shout out to y’all

when you say testicle size are we talking pre-lupron?
Posted 3/30/2021 7:06 AM (GMT -6)
F8 -- EXACTLY

Good luck on everyone's retirement!
Enjoy life, enjoy family, may God bless all of you!
Posted 3/30/2021 12:31 PM (GMT -6)
Enjoy your retirement! It will be 10 years for me come July. Can't believe it's ten years already. I've never been bored or short of things to do - treasurer and director of a small non profit, on an appointed town conservation subcommittee, do a lot of the physical volunteer work on 62 acre conservation land and 30 acre pond. Just got back an hour ago from a chainsaw party with another guy cutting up a large blow-down tree on the property. Another month it will be time to start seasonal mowing of grassland trails, clearing invasive brush, etc.
Posted 3/30/2021 5:06 PM (GMT -6)
Great reply’s thank you. Logo, I am not Spiraling. I am simply adjusting. I’ve always worked since I was 12 years old even when I was unemployed for a while I always did my best to look for work or apply for work or whatever. It’s a big adjustment. The weather is getting better and that helps. Our Hawaiian vacation was postponed due to Covid. Usually we would have been returning right about now all tanned up and full of vitamin D. This year we have to wait until June. Oh my God do I miss Kona. Today I worked on my woodshed and turned up the dirt in the garden. It has been a good day. Sorry about not mentioning rice crispy balls Pratt. They were terrible. They were so hard we had to be careful when biting into them for fear of breaking teeth. Right now I’m sitting out in the sun playing frisbee with the dog and observing the mating ritual of a pair of bald eagles. It’s pretty bad ass. There are other people I wish to reply to but I’m just drafted right now so I will have to do it later

Post Edited (Todd1963) : 3/30/2021 5:11:01 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 3/30/2021 5:11 PM (GMT -6)
F-8 definitely pre Lipton balls
Posted 3/30/2021 6:32 PM (GMT -6)

Todd1963 said...
F-8 definitely pre Lipton balls

i know my balls were like jelly beans when i was on lupron smile
Posted 3/30/2021 7:30 PM (GMT -6)
Good on ya...Todd...I sit on my porch routinely with a couple of icy cold hi octane IPA's watching the various birds mating...the doves are the worse or the best depending on perspective...visitors( tourists...just don't like that word)are swarming...very difficult to find rental cars...It does take time to adjust to retirement...I needed two sessions of contract instructing @ Faa Academy be fore the ants settled down...life is good...be patient and shake off the downers...and visualize...keep moving and of course keep believing...your faith didn't bring you this far...just to let ya go...The seed implanted is just of a different kine now...you'll see...
Posted 3/30/2021 8:03 PM (GMT -6)
Brother Todd
I am jealous. Hours of idleness? Your like a kid again, between graduating high school and deciding what to do next. Very jealous. Planning to go to Hawaii? Very very jealous. Retired? Really really, very jealous. My retirement is set for the end of this year...I think. I've sadly been so busy working that I don't get into this site to reply as much as I used to. So, did the SSDI get approved? Hope so.
Great that your body is recovering from all those years of hard working. Sad that you mentioned "testicle size rice balls", if they are like someone I know (me) they must be very small. lol. Honey dos or honey don'ts, its nice to have a honey ,a boo ,a main squeeze, a dearie-o.
Enjoy your new home, I am getting emotional about selling ours, but we plan to move closer to our daughter and husband, they have four sibling foster kids, hoping for four new adopted grandchildren soon. They will be "grafted in". Extremely jealous of your Eagle mating watching, more of a reason to pack up our Motorhome someday and come visiting you guys.
Take care, I know that you Keep the Faith, always ,
Wings of Eagles, aka Dan and Rose, in sunny So Cal
P.S. Don't ever feel not valuable. YOU are the most Valuable PC player/poster that I know
Posted 4/3/2021 6:30 PM (GMT -6)
Pirate 74. Don’t compact the balls while you are shaping them. Makes them very hard to bite into.
Posted 4/4/2021 7:39 AM (GMT -6)
Todd you have made it!! watching nature and animals and birds is a real indication that you have tossed the stress level and am now enjoying life to the fullest!! Congrats! Was watching two big white swans in the beaver flowage this morning while walking the dog realizing how lucky I am to experience scenes like this a lot of people never make it out of the cities! Like I mentioned won't be long and you will be wondering how the heck you had time to work!

Larry
Posted 4/4/2021 10:30 AM (GMT -6)
Larry, I am already there. Since the rain slowed down a little we have tilled the garden, planted 7 fruit trees, planted strawberries and grapes, and almost 3 cord of firewood is in the wood shed. We have until April 15 to cut another 4 cord. Our old hickory shed was delivered a month ago and I attached an 8x10x7’ high leanto on each side to cover the tractor and stack firewood in. I am a little over 1/3 finished building a gravel path down to the creek. I ran out of gravel. I have way more time than money but I am constantly busy. It’s pretty awesome actually.
Posted 4/4/2021 10:41 AM (GMT -6)
I am three hours from retirement. Lol
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