I hope I can be of some help. I am also 54 and its been 8 days post DaVinci surgery to remove my prostate. I chose Dr. Eric Mayer head of urology at St. Lukes Hospital in Bethlehem, PA. The results speak for themselves. The catheter tube is out and no incontinence.
To back up a little, the surgery went smoothly, about
4 hours. One issue I became quite nauseous from the morphine, anesthesia or the combination of both. The first morning after surgery I became quite light headed. I tried some beef broth and apple juice and threw those up. So ice cubes alone would of been better for me. At any rate I had no appetite until Saturday. I really don't think I needed any morphine, for I had no pain only discomfort when moving around, getting up etc.
The next surprise was during a bowel movement, some urine exited my penis around the catheter bulb. Well, I thought I broke a seal or something. The Dr., Dr. Leonard another excellent urologist at St. Lukes assured me that was normal.
I left the hospital on Monday Aug.28, really should have departed on the 27th. with catheter. No big deal on the catheter, I showered on Tuesday with leg bag and switched to the larger bag during the day and night. Important to let gravity do the job with the bags, not smart to have any backflow to minimize urinary tract or bladder infections. The nurse at St. Lukes mentioned the urine is okay or sterile 4 inches out after that could contain bacteria. Not sure of the accuracy of those numbers.
On Wednesday everything was perfect, 7 days post surgery when the catheter just slides out of the bladder. My wife and I nearly died, she was ready to call the rescue squad when I said to call the doctor. The doctor assured her I was in no danger.
But a new chapter
opened up, incontinence. Quick shuffle of procedures around the house. After a half dozen or so bowel movements with voiding during the night, I believe I am incontinence free.
Feel free to ask any questions or concerns you like. I have found this website extremely helpful also, being a Chemist and detail oriented person.
Ed from NJ.