Murphy ~ Our Special Helper

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bluebird
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   Posted 9/2/2006 6:46 PM (GMT -7)   

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Dear Friends,

 

When a friend or their loved ones become ill… I go out and buy a stuffed animal for them and one for their loved one.  I’ve always felt that a little critter helps in any situation. 

 

You need to get a special little “HELPER”…. This little helper can be anything that touches your heart. 

 

Here’s what our little critter did for us!!!

 

His Name is “MURPHY”  

 

http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb179/mamabluebird1955/HealingWell%20Photos/Murphy.jpg

 

He listened, He soaked up tears, He traveled with us to doctor’s appointments, He was there for the surgery, He watched over Buddy while I was at work, and he’s here right beside me as I write about him.  He took a lot of fear away.... just by being there for us.

 

He is a little stuffed mouse that belonged to my mother who passed away 2 years ago.  I had originally bought it for her.  She had it on her headboard and kissed this little guy every night.  We lived 3000 miles from each other. 

 

SO… He became our little Helper…  (I made him a little paper nurses hat during the recovery time)

 

Your HELPER will help YOU and your HONEY through the tough MOMENTS and will help you get back on track.  He will listen to your fears and your honey’s fears too! He will be there every step you take.  He went to every doctor’s appointment with us…. And he came to the hospital to keep me company through the surgery.  The nurse called down and said Buddy was in recovery and I told her to tell him…. “Lee & Murphy will be waiting in his room” J. When the nurses wheeled Buddy in… the first thing after getting him settled was…. Who’s Murphy?? And I introduced them to our little helper!  He’s looking at me right now as I type and it truly brings a warm loving feeling in my heart to know that we had a helper. 

 

Just one example…… Buddy was having a really rough day mentally…. And when I left for work I kissed Murphy extra... and I told him to take care of "Our Buddy"….  It worked!!!  I came home and Buddy was like a different person.  He informed me later that evening... that he and Murphy had talked through some things and he was feeling much better… J   So, get a HELPER for you and your loved one!

 

We still find ourselves grabbing Murphy for a GROUP HUG   :-)

 

When I’m on the forum…. I sometimes get emotional reading and the next thing I know Buddy is handing me Murphy for that Group Hug I just mentioned.

 

In Friendship,

Lee & Buddy

 

~~~~~~~~~~~#$%^&*   Group Hug %^&*(%~~~~~~~~~~~~

From the 3 of us... to you and your family!

Lee, Buddy, & Murphy

 

Post edited to add picture of Murphy : )

Post Edited (bluebird) : 2/26/2011 10:23:28 AM (GMT-7)


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 12/15/2007 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   
The value of pets...

As my friend, Blackie, sits at my feet. Simply put this is a wonderful post. I feel so bad for those whose allergies don't afford them the unconditional love our pets give us. We recently added our friends Blackie, my pup,  and Charlie, our pantancerous kittie. What a blessing...With our other friends, Mickey, Sebastian, and Dirty Harry.  Kitties galore!  LOL, poor dog!  My prayer for God's blessings to our little friends.  Your post?

Tony


Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
 
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
 
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.
 
STAY POSITIVE!

Post Edited (TC-LasVegas) : 12/15/2007 5:46:22 PM (GMT-7)


bluebird
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   Posted 12/15/2007 5:53 PM (GMT -7)   

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 12/15/2007 6:05 PM (GMT -7)   
These pets have our hearts. I never knew the Murphy story but what a precious thread. I am so glad I found this. My heart is touched.  But we have to keep Blackie separate.  Otherwise, Murphy will spread his love all over the place...LOL.


Tony


Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
 
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
 
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.
 
STAY POSITIVE!


jetguy
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   Posted 12/15/2007 7:33 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Bluebird and Tony,

Unlike you I am not an animal lover.  Dont' mind them, but just not interested.  I am, however amazed and crazy about humans.  You are two of the best I have met.  I have spent most of my life around high quality high performance people.  Those I meet here are the same. 

 Bluebird, the care giver and nurturer and lover of those who suffer.  Tony, the courageous and determined and wonderful example. 

I am humbled by your example.  I have run out of things to say.  So I will say it again.  I am humbled by your example.

Regards,

Bill

Bluebird.  Where, oh where, would the jetguy be without his bluebird?  Would he be lost in space and time?  A lost soul?  Forever frightened?  Probably not, but without you and your Buddy life would have been so much more difficult.  From the bottom of my heart, I thank you.  Oh! so very much.

 


August of 2006, PSA up to 4.2 from 2.7 one year ago. 
October free and total PSA 12% free and 5.0 total.
A month, or so later, 4.7.
Late in the year decide on Image Guided IMRT.
Begin 43 treatments on January 23, 2007 and finish on March 23.
Four month post treatment PSA is 1.9.
Seven month PSA is 0.8.


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 12/16/2007 12:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Very kind words, Bill. And Blackie thanks you as well. :-)

I'll have to do some soul searching to better understand courage. I never really thought of myself as couragous, but determined is another thing. But I have few choices there. But I will agree to everything nice that could be said about our moderators. As it pertains to Bluebird, with her staying with us we have something special. For that I am very thankful.

Tony


Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
 
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
 
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.
 
STAY POSITIVE!

Post Edited (TC-LasVegas) : 12/16/2007 12:29:15 PM (GMT-7)


mozart250
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   Posted 12/16/2007 2:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Bluebird, Tony, and all..

My basset hound Lucy and my little Terrier Toby and my cat Baxter send their love and want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas.

 


52 Year Old DBA by profession; amateur pianist by passion.
 
June 2006:  PSA 4.6.  DRE prostate enlarged.  
Aug  2006:  Second opinion confirms first.  Biopsy suggested.
Sep  2006:  Biopsy results positive one lobe.  Gleason 3+3.
Nov  2006:  RPA performed at Fletcher Allen in Burlington VT.
Nov  2006:  Pathology report: Stage T3a and Gleason 3+4.
Dec  2006:  PSA 0.1
Feb, May  2007:  PSA 0.0 (under 0.1)
Aug, Nov  2007:  PSA 0.1
 
Trying my hand at blogging.


Tim G
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   Posted 12/16/2007 3:53 PM (GMT -7)   
The year before I was diagnosed with prostate cancer our little dachshund, Henry, was gravely ill with hemolytic anemia.  He had to have blood transfusions and take special meds for a long time.  But he pulled thru and many months after he had almost died, the little guy got his health and vitality back. He and I formed a close bond during his illness and recovery.
 
A year later--you guessed 'er Chester--my wife and I got the difficult-to-hear news that I had prostate cancer.   And Henry seemed to sense that something was wrong.  He often sat quietly beside me, offered silent comfort and reassurance.  And when I was home for a month after surgery,  he accompanied me on walks and was a recovery buddy to me as I had been to him the year before.  My wife was instrumental in my emotional recovery from prostate cancer, but I have no doubt that Henry played an important role in my recovery as well. 

Age 59 PSA 2.6 (Quadrupled in one year) Gleason 5
Bilateral nerve-sparing RRP 6/21/06
Cancer confined to prostate, post-op PSA's non-detectable


bluebird
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   Posted 12/16/2007 6:32 PM (GMT -7)   

  tongue   Dear Tony ~

Amazing isn’t it…  this thread was posted September 2006

When I posted this ~ I remember crying the whole time I posted it because I thought it was an important thing to share.  I’m glad you found it and I’m thrilled you understand the meaning of it!

 

You are so right about keeping Murphy and Blackie apart!!!  My sister has my mom’s little stuffed groundhog named Grumpy.  He found out what it means to be spread around!!!  He is now missing his nose, eyes and one ear!!!  If he wasn’t grumpy before the “close encounter” he sure is now. 

 

Tony you won’t have to go far to better understand courage… 

Determined = Brave = Courage

Courage  We become brave by doing brave acts. 

Look in the mirror and see the face of courage.

 

Your kindness to us is deeply … Heartfelt!  In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy

 

 

  tongue   Dear Bill *Our Jetguy,

We will always be close… no matter how many miles separate us… there is a bond that was made back on October 29, 2006, and it will always be strong!!!

  Though you cannot always see the bird singing, if you listen with your heart,

you can always hear her song. 

 

There’s no doubt in my mind that you continue to feel us close to you!!!

Remember… a gentle breeze brushing against your cheek…  something we continue to send your way….  Our thanks go to you ~ for allowing us to travel the path you chose ~ a path that made us stronger too!  Keeping you close ~ Always…  In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy

 

  tongue Dear Mozart ~

Sharing the love…. with you, Lucy, Toby, & Baxter…

Hey ~ you're doing great with your blogging... Radiation Likely in my Future

Sharing the love in more ways than one!!!  A special gift! 

Happy Every~Day!  In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy 

 

  tongue Dear TimG,

The little critters know so much!!  How fortunate we are to have them.  Buddy & I knew we were going to travel during our retirement.  So ~ Murphy is perfect as our little companion!  Growing up with all sorts of critters gave me a true appreciation for the unconditional love that comes with them.

 

My brother-in-law was diagnosed with throat cancer and a few days later a little dog showed up at his door.  Can we all say “Guardian-Angel Dog”…. Yep ~ this little dog was with Bobby through the radiation and recovery period.  They named him Mouse.  He was so small he would curl up on Bobby and lie on his throat.  The warmth was soothing.  This little dog died for no apparent reason ~ soon after Bobby’s health started to recover. The reason is apparent to me….  Mouse is watching~over someone else in need… 

 

  smurf Thank you for sharing!

In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy

http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb179/mamabluebird1955/BluebirdLeeandBuddy.jpg

 


mama bluebird - Lee & Buddy… from North Carolina

 

v          We invite you to visit our personal thread:  Click Here:  “Our Journey” ~ Sharing is Caring 

April 3, 2006  53 on surgery day

RRP / Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy

PSA 4.6   Gleason  3+3=6    T2a   Confined to Prostate

3rd PSA 08-07-2007 Less than 0.1 Non-Detectable :)


IdahoSurvivor
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   Posted 12/17/2007 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
We have a mini-zoo at home: 1 dog, 2 cats, 2 birds, and 1 fish.  The birds and fish "belong" to our kids.   Our beloved black lab of 12 years just passed away.  Our current little dog, an American Eskimo miniature, adds a lot of joy to our household.  One of our cats, a standard tabby and 12 years young, is the most compassionate and she knows when something is wrong with one of us.  If any family member is sick or sad, she stays by that person all day.
 
Thank you re-upping the thread and for all the comments.
 
Kind regards,
 
Barry

"Idaho" ~ Barry

 

Da Vinci Surgery July 31, 2007… 54 on surgery day
PSA 4.3  Gleason 3+3=6  T2a  Confined to Prostate

1st PSA 0.04 (undetectable) 9/11/2007

My web site: http://pca-info.blogspot.com


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 12/17/2007 9:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Lee. Your thread was easy to find. I accidently clicked to show oldest messages first, and this at the top. It appears that your guardian angel....Murphy... was at work here. This is a very meaningful and pleasant thread.

Tony
Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
 
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
 
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.
 
Visit my journey at:
 
STAY POSITIVE!


spinbiscuit
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   Posted 12/17/2007 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Mama B,

I thought you might like to hear the story of our "Murphy". He was one of our first hamsters (daughter #1's pet). He was famous for his darring midnight escapes to the piano; down 2 flights of stairs, and into the family room. He must have known that there was no way we could get him out of that darn piano. Since that time we've had many more hamsters, but none have made it to the piano. Our currant critter is: "Bugbee", aka "Bennie"; he's so big I think he must be part Guinea Pig, and he's the only one that has squeaked and chirped (Jane says he does that when he's happy).

Well I hope You, Buddy & Murphy have a very Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year.

Glen, Jane & Bugbee
Diagnosed at age 60
PSA went from 2.2 to 3.8 in 14 months
2 of 14 cores positive at 10%
Gleason 6(3+3), negative DRE, neg. margins
DaVinci surgery on 02/23/06
Last PSA 08/26/07 @ 18 months "0"


Tony Crispino
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   Posted 12/17/2007 5:49 PM (GMT -7)   
I have another special friend. It's a little bluebird. She is a very giving and outward going person. Very importantly she takes care of our friend Buddy. She also hugs Murphy when he needs it. She also made me a bit happy today, Thanks for the visit!

Tony
Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
 
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
 
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.
 
Visit my journey at:
 
STAY POSITIVE!


bluebird
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   Posted 12/18/2007 9:22 PM (GMT -7)   
tongue  Tony ~ Thank you for reaching out to all of us in so many ways!!!

Your Story ~ needs to be heard.... Loud and Clear   yeah  

 

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/tonycrispino

 

STAY POSITIVE! (Music to our ears!!)

 

 

http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb179/mamabluebird1955/BluebirdStayClose.jpg

 

 

  Though you cannot always see the bird singing, if you listen with your heart,

you can always hear her song. 

 

  Our hearts hear your songs  

 

Tony ~  You are a good man!  And it is so heart warming to see your special face with Ruthie, Blackie, and loved ones….

 

You did real good!  You must have heard my subliminal message through the airwaves.  I saw the “roughing it” picture and said…. Tony ~ we need more pictures please…  I thought I’d give it a few days since the site is new… and YEA…. you put some more up.

 

Gentle hugs and warm thoughts coming your way... thank you for this special message above…. bluebird xoxo 

       
 
       

bluebird
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   Posted 12/18/2007 9:25 PM (GMT -7)   
tongue   Murphy's asking for pictures!!!!! of his new friends.... eeekkkkkkk  pweezeeee
 
 
:-)  Idaho ~ Thanks for sharing your critters with all of us.
cool Spinbiscuit ~ Precious story... I've been known to squeak too!!!!!  giggle/giggle
 
 
What fun ~ yeah Thank you all for posting to this thread!!! 
What a warm response to our little helper!!! 
 
eeeekkkkkkkkkk from Murphy xoxo

IdahoSurvivor
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   Posted 12/19/2007 12:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Below is a link to pictures of part of our mini-zoo.  The second cat from the left is one we found and we were able to adopt to another family.
 
 
Enjoy,
 
Idaho
 
 

bluebird
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   Posted 12/30/2007 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
IdahoSurvivor said...
We have a mini-zoo at home: 1 dog, 2 cats, 2 birds, and 1 fish.  The birds and fish "belong" to our kids.   Our beloved black lab of 12 years just passed away.  Our current little dog, an American Eskimo miniature, adds a lot of joy to our household.  One of our cats, a standard tabby and 12 years young, is the most compassionate and she knows when something is wrong with one of us.  If any family member is sick or sad, she stays by that person all day. 
Thank you re-upping the thread and for all the comments. 
Kind regards, 
Barry           

 

tongue  Hey ~ Barry & little friends....

We are so happy you added pictures!!! 

The little miniature American Eskimo is precious.  I have a love for Tabby cats... too!  I have a feeling the fish and birds are not very happy with you at the moment!!!  Maybe when Valentine's Day comes around you can share their pictures then.

I’m sad to hear about your beloved black lab… but happy to know s(he) was with you during your recovery period.  Kisses to all the critters….  And Hugs to the HUMANS!!!

Hugs from Murphy, Lee, & Buddy


DesertGal
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   Posted 12/30/2007 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi,

I loved the animal stories whether they are alive or stuffed makes no difference long as they are giving comfort.  We have two special guys in our life, both adopted from shelters.  One is Harley, a beautiful 90 lb black lab and Scooter a scruffy looking grey Lhasa Apso.  They are the best of friends and our shadows, and our best buddies. You know they can sense when someone is feeling bad.  Whether you are sick, or sad.. they are there to comfort us, or entertain and make us laugh. Their love is unconditional, they don't care how we look or smell, they still love us no matter what. Scooter sleeps on the bed and cuddles with Randy, and Harley is on the floor at our side. It's no wonder the labs make such wonderful service dogs, he never leaves my sight.  I bought Scooter 2 years ago on Christmas Eve for Randy.  He had been badly abused and didn't like men, so it took a little while to earn his trust, but soon he fit right in as a member of our family. Randy had cats before I came along, so a small lap dog was the perfect gift.  I'm going to give him a pillow to hold on his tum so Scooter won't accidently hurt him, either jumping up or off his lap. I know he'll be right at his side every step of the way helping him to get better!

Thanks for an uplifting topic!

Marie 


Husband 55 years old
No symptoms
PSA taken on routine health exam
06/18/07  PSA 9.2
07/14/07  Put on antibiotics for a month
09/18/07  PSA 8.77
09/18/07  PSA % Free  9.61
10/17/07  Biopsy =  Gleason 3 + 4  (7)
10/17/07  Biopsy 40% Right Side less than 5% Left Side
12/31/07  D Day!  Davinci Surgery Day - Jon Huntsman Cancer Institute


IdahoSurvivor
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   Posted 12/30/2007 4:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi bluebird and DesertGal,

I really enjoyed your comments today!  I forgot to mention... my wife bought me a really nice little stuffed moose (I call Bullwinkle) to keep me company in the hospital.   He is really cool!  He came home with me and I kept him nearby during my initial three weeks of recovery. :-)

Bullwinkle really helped when I had to go back to the office, since I took him with me.  Having him at the office made me think back with fondness on all the good care and support I received just after my surgery from friends and family.

Happy New Year to everyone!

Barry


"Idaho" ~ Barry

 

Da Vinci Surgery July 31, 2007… 54 on surgery day
PSA 4.3  Gleason 3+3=6  T2a  Confined to Prostate

1st PSA  9/11/2007   <0.04 (undetectable)

2nd PSA 12/10/2007  <0.04

My web site: http://pca-info.blogspot.com

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