Everyone recovers at a different pace. "We" had no leaking the first 2 weeks after catheter removal. Then, all of a sudden it just started gushing, leaking, dribbling, whatever. Even now, some days are good; others are not. None when lying or sitting - only with activity. Surgeon did a sphincter test in the office and all is good and tight. Just one of those things. It's very emotionally upsetting/demeaning, but we know it'll get better.
With regard to kegels, our research and surgeon both said that pre-surgery, do as many as you can each day. Post-surgery, drop back to the 2x/day routine with 10 kegels/3 minutes each time. That may be where some of the confusion comes in: pre-surgery recommendations vs. post-surgical.
(And welcome, KW. We're - me, mostly - former and long-time Okies. I married a born-and-bred Texan, however, and that means sooner or later yur gonna end up back in Texas!)
Husband age 65
PSA on 5/1/06: 4.2 (had doubled in 13 mos. and rising monthly)
DaVinci Surgery 8/2/06
T2a (at biopsy)
T4c (at pathology) w/cancer cell leakage into fatty tissue
Post-Surgical PSA on 10/3/06 - undetectable!
Update: 11/1/06 - perhaps bladder neck involvement; 30%-50% chance of recurrence
Future: PSA tests twice-yearly for now