I’m so glad to hear from you!! Remember ~ time is a healer. And you’ve had a few extra things to deal with. I hope the new apartment has helped you in the depression department. And I’m thrilled to see you have a therapist! Remember…. A lot of us have spouses/partners to bounce off of and this is where a therapist comes in. And this is a good thing. It’s when you don’t realize you need extra outside help… is when you can get yourself in trouble. So ~ if you need to talk ~ before your appointment….. you know there’s a lot of shoulders here….so use ours… okay!!!
Holidays seem to be the time that people tend to have the darkest clouds come to them. Don’t let this happen. Take this rainbow and know that each time a dark cloud even thinks about covering your sunshine….. you have your very own rainbow to swish them away.
This is “YOUR” rainbow
Rainbows bring smiles, smiles bring positive energy into our being!!!
Take time out of each day and “smile”….. It really does help to heal the body. And open your curtains…. Cuz the sun really is out there. Even in Colorado as we talk ~ they are having a blizzard but that beautiful sun is still shining.
Remember ~ we are all under the same stars, moon, & sun. And I’m sending parts of our sunshine from North Carolina to you!
We are here for you my friend….. Don’t stay away so long! Okay!!! Remember we care!!!!
Now to change the subject a little as I ramble on……
You asked about kegels??……
I think you know the answer to this!!! But ~ if you don’t remember to do them… the answer really doesn’t matter.
I have always remembered what Dr. Walsh wrote in his book.... partial quote below.....
Urinary continence: Before surgery, many men focus on impotence as the major complication of radical Prostatectomy. They’re wrong. Recovery of urinary control is far more important and __if it happens slowly, or doesn’t happen at all__casts a far greater shadow on your life. If something’s wrong with your ability to urinate, you’ll be reminded of it several times a day__or worse, several times an hour__not just a few times a week or month. And frankly, having to change your adult diaper because you just involuntarily urinated in it can dampen__literally__any romantic thoughts that you do have.
Now this is just my opinion….. Being single adds the extra pressure to have urinary continence come in at #2 rather than #3. But again …. This is just my opinion …. Chirp chirp chirp….
Birdland you may be one of the ones who don’t need to do kegels and will be totally continent at some point without it … good luck…. But ~ I personally would be doing what ever is possible to help myself out and that little sphincter muscle who’s got a tough job ahead of himself. This little muscle has to last a long time….
You might want to re-think your “assignment for the day, and tomorrow, and the next day”.
Practice kegels every~day. There’s lots of postings with really good info about how to do them. You do them while you’re taking a leak…. So can’t be too hard to remember!
So on this note I’ll sign off. I know … you know…..I care and that’s why I’ve just lectured…. Cuz I love ya man!!!!
Take care ~
In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy