Tinker . . . he was told to do the kegal exercises . . .but not until the catheter was out. He was told to do them 12 to 20 times in one session, holding each for 5 to 10 seconds and relax for 10 seconds. . . . .and to do this 3 times per day.
Briefly -- the kegals are done . .
- either lying with knees bent and feet and knees 10 inches, apart, OR they can also be done while sitting.
- Concentrate on pelvic floor muscles and relax all other surrounding muscles of the stomach, buttocks, and thighs.
- Firmly and steadily squeeze the muscles of your pelvic floor (just ahead of the rectum) . . . also described in here as imagining he is using his penis as a straw to suck up water (those are exactly the muscles to tighten) OR the same muscles used to stop the urine stream mid way. Hold this squeeze for 5 to 10 seconds.
- Repeat the firm squeezes and relaxation 12 to 20 times per session.
Walking will help in a big way as well. Several people in this forum were walking a fair distance within 2 weeks of surgery or even sooner and as far as comfort prevails.
Does your Dad have a leg bag he can use if he goes out?? This wouldn't be as humiliating for him as the large one that's mostly for night use.
Urinary continence takes everyone different amounts of time. You may read in here that someone has their catheter out and has instant control . . .this is great, but by no means the "norm"
Others gush and leak for a long time. Three months until control is considered normal. My husband is now 3 months post operation and still wears one pad per day for drips and leaks.
Make sure your Dad has the mens pads . . they make it easier to wear normal clothes. The "diapers" should be reserved for night time use. In our case, Bob used a pad along with the night time pants as extra precaution.
Will your Dad read some of the posts in here, or would he attend a support group of prostate cancer surivors??
That would help him with how he feels about all this. The sooner he's thinking positive, walking, and exercising, the sooner he'll be back to normal. This is just one "glitch" along the stepping stones of life (to quote mama bluebird)
Hope this post helps you all. There are others that will be answering you as well I'm sure. Good luck to you and your family!!
;o) Linda & Bob