An unfortunate welcome to you. As already mentioned the last few weeks leading up to surgery are definitely trying ones. Getting exercise is one of the best stress relievers. Get yor husband up and walking if he has not already started that. This should be done every day. As to things that you should have when he comes home here is a quick list.
!. A pillow to hold against his abdomen. You should have this is your car when you leave the hospital. Clutching this to the abdomen helps with the soreness and is highly recommended especially when he sneezes or coughs.
2. A small cushion or pillow to sit on. His perineum will be tender for a few weeks and it will especially be that way when sitting staight up in a chair.
3. Some antibacterial soap in the plunger type of dispenser. This helps in the cleaning out of the catheter bags.
4. Neosporin for applying to the tip of his penis around the catheter. He will have some small amount of blood leaking around the catheter. This will have to be cleaned often and neosporin applied to keep the tip and catheter lubricated to keep it from pulling on his penis. I believe most of us hated the catheter the most because of the pulling that it does. My penis was sore for two weeks after the catheter was removed. By the way, having a package of baby wipes handy in the bathroom is a good idea as this is perfect for cleaning the penis tip and catheter.
5. What to wear while having the catheter in has been discussed on this forum. What I did was buy some basketball pants from Dick's Sporting Goods and these worked fine. Within a few days of being home I found that with the leg bag I could wear blue jeans or slacks without any problems.
6. The night bag for the catheter is fairly large and how to hang it becomes an issue. It is made to hang off of a bed rail but if you have a dust ruffle on your bed that does not work well. I found that taking a small plastic trash container like those use in an office by a desk worked real well. The bag goes in it perfectly and it hangs from the lip. This allows you to move around and all you have to do is carry the trash container and set it back down on the floor and not have to wonder where you are going to put the bag. It also kinds of hides the bag so others do not have to look at the urine in the bag.
7. Once he gets home drinking lots of liquids is important. These cannot be carbonated drinks as this would develop gas which you do not want especially if he is having a Da Vinci. Juices are good.
8. Walking is a must immediately after surgery. You may want ot have some slip on type of shoes. It is difficult with the sore abdomen to bend over and tie shoes. Of course, if someone is going to be around then that is not a big need.
9. In preparation for the removal of the catheter you need to purchase incontinence pads. If your husband wear brief type of underwear the male undergards work well as they fit inside the underwear. If he wear boxers then either he should buy a few briefs or get the Depends type of underwear.
I am sure that others will add to this list but this is what I thoguht about
. As apprehensive as the two of you are at this point you will be pleasantly surprised how well he will feel afterwards and how quick he recovers.
1 of 10 core samples, 40%
Stage T1c, Gleason 3+3
Da Vinci on 11/01/06
56 Years Old
Post Op Path
Approx. 5% of prostate involved
Prostate Confined, margins clear
Undetectable PSA on 12/18/06