Hi, Iz - I recommend going into girl scout mode and be prepared for anything. (x-treme, maybe) For one thing, you don't know how Ken will respond to the anesthesia or even the surgery itself. You don't know if - for some unforeseen reason - he might have to stay an extra day.
We did not bank blood, either. As far as stairs, husb. came home with a huge black and blue scrotum and intense pain for almost a week. So, it was up only as required to empty bag and eat. (OK, we did sit on the deck for cigars and drinks after a few days - life's no fun without a vice or two.) Walking was almost entirely out of the question. Just one of those things. Rare, but you never know.
This is not to make you worry, but just to be prepared for anything.
We were very fortunate - the hospital had only private "suites" and I wouldn't have even considered going back to the hotel. Throughout the night, about
every 30 minutes, husb. was thirsty, but not enough out of the anesthesia to do anything for himself. Couldn't even have found the call button at that point. Others are up and at 'em in a couple of hours or so following surgery. Everyone reacts differently, so you never know.
This is major surgery, but remember that the pain is only for a few hours and at most a few days as it diminishes drastically. As soon as the catheter came out, I had to keep an eye on him every minute - to keep from overdoing. At the 8-week clearance mark, he was building a retaining wall.
This part of it will go quickly, too, so just get ready for seeing Ken back to normal in no time!
Husband age 65
PSA on 5/1/06: 4.2 (had doubled in 13 mos. and rising monthly)
DaVinci Surgery 8/2/06
T2a (at biopsy)
T4c (at pathology) w/cancer cell leakage into fatty tissue
Post-Surgical PSA on 10/3/06 - undetectable!
Update: 11/1/06 - perhaps bladder neck involvement; 30%-50% chance of recurrence
Future: PSA tests twice-yearly for now