you are among friends here. as the saying goes, "you have nothing to fear except fear itself". the only way you are going to bring some sense of peace to yourself is to pursue whether or not you may have prostate cancer or BPH (Benign prostatic hyperplasia) which is an enlarged prostate which can elevate your PSA, but is not necessarily cancerous. BPH can certainly cause some of the urinary problems you have been experiencing. there are medications to help BPH and keep your urine flowing. one of my former business associates has had BPH for a very long time; if it weren't for the medication (proscar) he is taking, he told me that he would not be able to urinate at times. so don't be afraid--just find the best urologist in your area and proceed from there.
sometimes it is better to tell your wife because having a secret like this can add a lot of stress and guilt feelings to you. marriage is sharing for better or for worse! tell you wife that prostate cancer in its earlier stages has a high chance of a cure. i would suspect with your lower PSA that you would be in an early stage if you have PC. let's hope it is only BPH!
good luck and let us know what progress you make from here.
p.s. I love the "new hope" after your name--it is very inspirational! just keep thinking "new hope"! all PC patients need "new hope" at each turn which will hopefully keep them with a very positive attitude.
68, Biopsy 9/27/06, Stage T1c, PSA 7.1, Gleason 6 [less than 5% in two areas], Gleason 7 (3+4) [less than 20% in third area], negative DRE, bone scan and MRI. Starting proton radiation therapy 2/22/07.
Post Edited (pcdave) : 2/14/2007 7:29:56 PM (GMT-7)