Cynthia, my best to you whatever decision you both make.
I agree with SJC, once you decide to have surgery, the surgeon is the most important decision. In my case, my surgeon had done over 1000 "open" RRP's and admitted that he did not have experience with laparoscopic procedures, talked about the "touch" advantage that he felt open surgeries allow, but also would refer out if I insisted on a LRP. I was able to check the State Medical Examiner website prior to making my original appointment to make sure there was no history of complaints, lawsuits or malpractice. I also spoke with two of the doctor's patients/families that had been through the procedure. With this I made my decision to proceed, and I am pleased with the results so far.
My prayers are with you for guidance, strength and knowing that whatever decision you two make, that you will have success.
PSA: 4.1 (first test) 4.2 (second test)
Gleason: 6, cancer found in both sections of prostate
Surgery: Open RP on 5/1/07
Pathology: All contined with the gland, no spread
Catheter out: 5/15/07
Incontinence: at 10 weeks to one pad per day
ED: slowly getting better
First Post-Surgery PSA: set for 8/6/07
Spread the word to men you know or meet: See your doctor. Have a PSA test early.