Method discovered (?) while attempting to regain Continence

At six weeks post open prostate removal, I am still struggling with awful incontinence (I am doing my Kegals).  The hardest thing for me to deal with is the "gushing" (after sitting or lying down, it all gushes out of my bladder when I stand up).  But I think I am seeing some little improvement (I mentioned in another thread) in being able to hold it for just a little while after I stand, but I sure have to squeeze awfully hard and walk awfully funny to do so.  If I do those things, I might be able to make it to the bathroom.

 

New discovery?  Well, I doubt it's a "new" discovery, but if I have read it on this anywhere, I don't remember it.   I do need some input on this from you veterans. 

Here it is:  Of course the "gushing" is caused by sitting on the place where the old prostate used to be, right?  The more I sit and the longer I sit like that, the more gushing there is.  But lately I have been attempting to purposefully sit on my pelvic bone (I think that is the name of it), shifting from the one side to the other side.  This allows me to keep pressure off the dreaded "spot".  I am learning (I never say I have learned) that by doing this and squeezing really hard, I have more of a chance in making it to the bath room and peeing on purpose.  Does that make sense?

 

Now if I can learn how to get an erection again and have an orgasm that does not spurt pee everywhere, I will have really attained something great, at least for me.

 

Gene

 

 

Gene, thank you for the tip. I will pass that along to my husband. He is getting very frustrated by increasing leakage when he had very little for the first 2 days after the cath was removed. I keep telling him that it has only been one week, but I think he thought he would be one of the lucky ones who are totally dry after a day or two. One of his other big complaints is that he feels like he is squeezing his muscles constantly, so by the end of the day, he is worn out. And not to mention the diaper rash feeling, that is also driving him crazy. He says he is constantly hot down south. Any help in those areas would be greatly appreciated. Courtney

kziz----I have felt burning and discomfort from rectal area for a few weeks---now 4 weeks post-op, Finally the hot down South has subsided--internally the healing has taken time-externally is a different matter----would like to hear his thoughts---most husbands--myself included, hate sh-it like this but --when TC told me to exercise-I listened--
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