Sorry you have to be here but, as you have found, this is the place to be for hope, support and information. Your husband's fear and reluctance to talk about
it sounds like me when I was first diagnosed. Then we (my wife and I) got some literature from the doc and a list of web sites (this one included). Soon, we started talking about
the various options and how each might affect our lives. Then the wall was broken down and we shared everything (hopes, fears, tears) from then on. She was very frank and
open with her concerns like sex and continence. These are things that men like to brag about
but are really reluctant to talk frankly about
. Especially when they are threatened. Not knowing if you will be in daapers for the rest of your life and not ever have another boner scares the h____ out of every man alive.
My suggestion is to be
open and honest with him about
your fears and hopes. If he clams up, at least he will know what you are thinking and he will think about
that. Let him have his space but continually let him know of your love and care for him. Assure him that you will stand with him through whatever happens. Try to dwell on the positive side. My wife and I are much closer than we have ever been in 51 years of marraige as the result of this PCa experience. For the first time, we are standing together and can face anything else that happens.
Good luck and please stay with us...
Age 72. Diagnosed 11/03/06. PSA 7.05. Stage T2B Gleason 3+3.
RRP 12/7/06. Nerves and nodes okay.
Pathological stage: T2B. Gleason 3+4. Cancer confined to prostate.
PSA on 1/3/07 - 0.04.
PSA on 4/4/07 - 0.00 T level - 48 Restarted T therapy.
Next PSA on 7/11/07.
"Cancer feeds on fear - starve it to death."