AEG, sorry you had to join our group. Like your husband, mine is also one of the young ones at 47. You can look below to see his stats. He also had a low PSA, but high for his age. Every urologist we spoke to said that a bone scan and CT scan were not important. I have a trusted onocologist who sat up the test for us. He assured us that chances were, they would be negative, but why not just make sure. The partin tables scared me to death. I felt more comfortable knowing for sure, as did my husband.
With the help of all the great people here, and our local onocologist (who we also saw despite what the urologist said), we made a quick decision to go with the da Vinci. We had to travel to have it done by a doctor with a lot of experience. Once that decision was made, we were very relieved. It has been 4 almost 5 weeks since surgery. Kurt is back to work, only leaks when he sneezes, and continues his rehab for ED. We are truly bleased to be rid of the cancer. Our lives are on the way back to normal.
If you have kids, there are many web sites out there to help you talk to them. Kurt tried to shield ours a little at first, but after the initial shock of "dad's going to have an operation and everything will be ok" wore off, (maybe 30-45 minutes), we told them the "C" word. After that, we had
open convesations, both with the boys (ages 14 and 10) and infront of the boys. It helped them to feel part of it all. If someone asked me a question in front of the youngest, he would often jump in with the answer. And he was proud to be part of the adult conversation and in the know.
Reseach all your options. Surgery is not as scary as it seems at first. The side effects will decrease with time. A lot of men live a healthy, full life following treatment. Let us know where you are from, that way the locals can help even more. And have your husband start walking daily and doing kegals. Keep posting, and more importantly, keep your head up and know that we are here to help you along this journey. One of my favorite sayings is "Life's a Journey, not a destination". Courtney
Kurt & Courtney
47 year old
Great Health prior to dx
Dx on 1/29/07
Gleason 3+3=6, both lobes
Stage T2c, I believe
Tumor involves 20% of cores, both lobes
Live in OK
Da Vinci scheduled 3-14-07 in Austin
Post-Op Gleason 6, Stage t2c nx mx YAAAAA HOOOOOO!