I got your message. As promised, I will be sending you the "parents' weekly digest." My computer at work (my only internet access) doesn't let me enter chatrooms. As I regain my health, my attachment to this forum is both the sense of community and a sense of fidelity to try to help others as I was helped. While not really a shy person, the lack of anonymity outside this forum and my feeling/need to be the uber-optimist for personal healing -will likely include a personal reticence to discuss personal problems there. I only barely discuss my recovery with the relatively few people that actually know the details. For me, I don't feel it helps. Acting well can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
As for the bleeding, my thoughts: It could be from the sutures reconnecting the urethra. If it is, TAKE IT EASY UNTIL THIS PROBLEM GOES AWAY. Walk only. No lifting over 10 pounds. Don't take any blood thinning medications. This includes aspirin, ibuprofin, alcohol, and most pain killers.
You are far enough out from surgery that I would keep notes on any related symtoms and take the doctor's time going over them when you visit. This bleeding and possible infection issues can't be helping you with incontinence and E.D.
Keep your spirits up and walk in His. ICTHUS