You never have to apologize for a rant here. Welcome to Healing Well.
I am sorry that you have had this added to your already overloaded painful medical problems with your wife.
I am Kitt. I am a nurse but I am not a professinal on this site, so I am only giving you support and advice.
Your experience is fairly typical of what men find when they are newly diagnosed with prostate cancer. Doctors typically recommend only the treatment they themselves give. A urologist will talk about surgery and a radiation oncologist about radiation. It can be like buying a car. If you go to a Chevrolet dealer, the talk will be about Chevrolets, and a Ford dealer will talk only about Fords.
The most important advice I can give you is for you to learn about prostate cancer yourself and then make your own decision about treatment and doctor. It is easy to understand and learn about prostate cancer and about doctors, and it is very important that you do. With few exceptions, you will get only one chance to be treated for cure of prostate cancer.
Please visit the Prostate Cancer Resource Center located at http://www.healingwell.com/prostatecancer/
Take care of you.
Depression 25 years, Husband Crohns Disease 30 years
"If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.”