Most post op guys experience the same thing. The orgasms for many men after prostate surgery are more intense then before and of course they are dry. The leaking that is occurring may just be due to the incontinence that you still have. You do not say how long it has been since your surgery or where you are at with incontinence. It takes time for the total healing to take place. As to the ED you will most likely have to look into one of the intervention approaches. These include one of the ED pills, vacuum pump or penile injections. I tried all three and the penile injections give me an erection close to what I had before the surgery and a more quality sex then the vacuum pump. Your urologist should have already discussed the penile rehab with you.