I had surgery 4/24 and catheter out 5/2... We live about 1 hour from the hospital. On the trip home I dribbled a lot and squirted a few times... Had to stop at a gas station to change pads as the one I put on for the trip home was already soaked.
After we got home and I cleaned up a bit and relaxed, I found that sitting quietly, reading or watching tv, I would not hardly dribble or leak at all. As soon as I got up and if I didn't hold the kegals real tight, I would squirt. Walking was a continuous leak/squirt. I was not looking forward to sleeping that night.
Amazingly, when I layed down to sleep, I did not leak/drip at all... I did get up 3 or 4 times during the night to pee, but could squeeze kegals and make it to the bathroom without leaking.
Things did settle down a lot over the next few days as I grew accostomed to circumstances when I would leak or squirt, and times when I would be fine. A typical day, I would go thru about 6-7 pads.
For me now, and I am now 6 weeks past catheter... Sleeping and sitting have never been a problem. Getting up from sitting, sneezing, coughing, and walking still cause some leaking/squirting. Each week, I experience greater lengths of time that I do not leak very much walking. Mornings are best, and evenings are worst. I did find that if I took a short nap just after noon, I could get up and walk somewhat leak free for a couple of hours. I am now going thru 4-5 pads a day, but not worrying or being embarrassed about it. I keep an extra pad in a pants pocket with a plastic zip lock in case I need to do an on the fly change while walking or shopping. I have gotten pretty good at changing a pad in the front seat of the car in a crowded parking lot...
The important thing is DO THE KEGALS on a regular structured schedule... Do not over do them, but follow your doctors instructions. After awhile, throw in some elevator kegals (See Cedar Choppers thread for instructions). And get LOTS OF REST. When you are tired, you tend to leak more. I still get frustrated once in awhile, but things are definitely better now than they were at the beginning... Just not at the time schedule I wanted.
And the most important thing... THE CANCER IS OUT and you have great chances for a continued long and fruitful life! That is the #1 thing... Continance and ED are #2 & #3... And they take a little longer than getting the prostate removed... Everybody has their own recovery pace, but the odds are good for us... it just takes time.
This forum is a great place... Plenty of threads on all kinds of issues we of the PCa "family" have had to go through... Anf plenty of love, care, and support! You can also ask questions and advice from our wives and support/care givers... to get their perspectives from their side of the journey. No question is dumb and no question is too intimate.
Ray & Avis
Ray & Avis
Age 59 y/o - Last 3-4 years of annual general health checkups - PSA 5-6 but Free PSA Ratio 21-24%, suggesting "benign"
3/7/2007 - Went to urologist -Neg DRE, but scheduled screening biopsy
3/13/2007 - 12 point biopsy - Left 6 OK Right 1 of 6 had small hit.
Gleason 3+3 Diagnosed as T1c
4/24/2007 - DaVinci performed at Virginia Mason hospital in Seattle
5/2/2007 - Catheter Out! Got copy of pathology report:
Gleason 6 T2c Nx Mx approx 20% of prostate involved
Positive margin, but 2 places where a focal point of only 2 cells were touching edge, the right apex and right posterior. Perineural Invasion present. Seminal Vesicle and Lymphatic/Vascular not identified. Final Diognosis of T2c "suggests" organ confined. Stats for no re-occurance are 95% for 7 years. No further treatment other than PSA watch.