no sex equals not enough contact

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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 6/23/2007 12:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Do you all think it's best to prevent exposure to sexual stimulation in order to prevent the possiblity of an erection during the post op time?

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 6/24/2007 10:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Depending on what you mean by post op time, I doubt that your body will let you do anything that will hurt you. I remember a naturally occurring morning erection while I still had the catheter that was painful. I wouldn't recommend sexual activity during that period. Beyond that, in my experience, it takes a while to reestablish the brain connection to the penis in sexual situations, so I would be a proponent of starting early with sexual stimulation as part of your recovery. Don't be surprised if things that you would have considered "hot" before surgery don't produce the same result as before surgery. It takes time, patience, and practice. With or without an erection, I think it is important to reestablish sexual intimacy with your wife or partner as soon as possible. Although not the ideal everyone strives for, the creativity and intimacy that is part of both partners enjoying sex in the absence of an erection can improve or at least sustain your relationship.

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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 6/24/2007 2:41 PM (GMT -6)   

Well, one thing I'll add here, because its just recently been a topic of discussion, then action, is that spouses need physical contact and often are neglected in this area post surgery.  Men seem to often equate physical contact with sexual expression and after surgery, since that is not a prospect for a while, all physical contact habits seem to fall by the wayside.

Hence, I think it is a good idea to make sure that there is lots of physical contact. Cuddling, hugs, being cozy on the couch with a movie. Otherwise it can be a real problem.

And I wouldn't be too worried about an erection springing up.  Heck, I'd be delighted if that happened.  I don't recall seeing how long it has been since your surgery. My dr. says  to wait 6 wks before trying for an erection.

Age, 53
PSA 3.76, Gleason 6, T1c, scans negative
psa doubling time 35 months
Da vinci robotic surgery May 31, 2007,
Nerves spared
Clear margins, clean pathology report
Catheter out at 4 days.
Dribbling like a basketball star
At 10 days out, dry all night, most of the morning.
Walking 2-5 miles per day.
Down to about 4 pads/ day.

El Tigre
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 58
   Posted 6/24/2007 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
You shouldn't try for an erection with the catheter still in place. Otherwise.... If you can't get one, try to. If you can get one, be very, very happy! As most people on this site will attest, gaining an erection post surgery is like the holy grail of desirable post op indicators of healing.

Don't get upset if you don't get one. Don't fixate on getting one. both of those things can keep you "down". Let your body heal, do what the doc says. Use a vacuum device or pills or a combination of the two. If those don't work try the shots. (don't use the vacuum or pills with the shot) Something will work. Keep the faith.
I sure do wish I had found this site pre-surgery!! RRP 10/25/05 I don't remember all the scores. Have had clean checks ever since. Never had to use the pads!!

M. Kat
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 6/25/2007 7:10 AM (GMT -6)   
GW - I know that neither Jeff nor I were in the mood for any sexual stimulation while the catheter was still in. we still hugged and cuddled, but sex was the last thing on our minds. as soon as the catheter was out, Jeff was ready even though his penis was not. he did have orgasms without an erection. give your body time to heal... kat
Husband Jeff 56 years old diagnosed July 27, 2006
PSA 6.5, 2 positive areas in biopsy, Gleason 3+3=6
Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy August 30, 2006
pathology report - all clear - cancer gone
1st post-surgery PSA test <0.1, 2nd post-surgery PSA test <0.1, 3rd PSA <0.1
no more pads Oct 12, 2006
first "real" erection with use of pump 12/16/06
3/07 - occasional dribbles and erections with Cialis and pump

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