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mariateresa
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Posted 6/24/2007 7:26 PM (GMT -8)
My husband is 55 and has always been in relatively good health. Last year my husband's PSA was normal, last month his PSA was elevated to 8. He saw a urologist who said his prostate is bumpy and not smooth. My husband doesn't have any symptoms. The urologist said his office would schedule a biopsy. It has been two weeks and the doctor's office hasn't called. I am worried about my husband because he is avoiding following up with the urologist. I don't know if he is in denial and I don't know what I should be doing to help him. I keep trying to encourage him to follow up with the urologist, but my husband keeps saying that the urologist is probably busy (since he told my husband that he has performed over 20,000 biopsies) and that the biopsy procedure has to be coordinated with the ultrasound technician. Please help!
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2busymom
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Posted 6/24/2007 8:36 PM (GMT -8)
Hi Maria,

If Iremember correctly, when my husband was reffered to the urologist, we had an appt. that day for the following week. But depending on what state you live in, the response time can vary according to the insurance. I've learned the hard way that you have to be very proactive and fight for your self interests sometimes. The squeeky wheel does get the attention.

If your husband won't call, call them yourself. And if they're too busy to see you, find someone else. but don't put this off - the sooner you know, the longer you have to figure out what your options are.

bec
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M. Kat
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Posted 6/25/2007 4:18 AM (GMT -8)
Maria, I ditto what Bec said. call the urologist and make an appt for your husband. my husband had no symptoms other than a slightly high PSA but did have prostate cancer. it is not a death sentence, just a bump in the road. and your husband's high PSA might be something else. kat
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mvesr
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Posted 6/25/2007 6:08 AM (GMT -8)
Hi mariateresa. Don't let your husband or the urologist fool around with this. I am 55 also and had surgery May 30th. I could not believe this was happening to me. No prostate cancer in my family. It took me until the second opinion with my biopsy and I asked my doctor if this was a dream. After seeing the same results on the re-do of the biopsy that I realized I was not dreaming. By that time I had scheduled my surgery. Don't wait any longer. My Gleason was 3+4=7, but when they got it out there were some Gleason 5 cells in there, so don't take any more chances. It will be ok. There are a lot of things to do to treat this problem, but he needs to have the biopsy. So encourage him all you can. I know you will stand by him, so plead with him to seek out the answers to this burning question. Please let us know how he is doing. Come back to this forum because we are here to help and support you and your husband.
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Swimom
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Posted 6/25/2007 7:09 AM (GMT -8)
Maria,

Your Hubby is right...he is also scared. Offer to make the call for him. If he says no, then let him know you will give him a few days...then call anyway. We've all put off uncomfortable, painful or frightening things. You can lead a horse, ya know? Good luck.

Swim
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Dutch
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Posted 6/25/2007 9:18 AM (GMT -8)

Maria:

My first post - Dutch's wife.  Maria, your husband may not have any symptoms, but he has two very large "red flags" - the PSA that appears to have doubled in the last year and DRE that indicates a prostate that does not feel "normal" to the urologist.  You didn't mention how he came to get the PSA to begin with (yrly physical, other problem, etc.), but apparently he does go to the doctor on his own.

Now I am sure there is some of the fear factor involved, but I think you have to explain to him that early detection gives a better than average chance of a cure and that by not doing anything he is putting both himself and your family in jeopardy.  This is truly a "couples disease" and the outcome will definitely affect you as well as him.  Let him know you will be with him every step of the way, but he has to act now.  If it were me and there was no response, I would make the appointment!!!

Good luck and report back to us.

Dutch-ESS

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NewJourney
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Posted 6/25/2007 2:12 PM (GMT -8)
I can understand the fear and apprehension. When I was told to get a biospy I told no one about this. Did not read any material before hand either. Went to office alone. The doctor explained briefly what I should expect. On day of biospy I walked back to treatment room, which is way in the back. I comment on this, the nurse says, "well, yes, so no one can hear you screaming." Great I say. Nothing like pegging every red flag meter in my body. After the procedure I am thinking, that was all? This is not without some feeling, but its like getting a number of shots. I realize some people have real issues with needles, but in the scheme of things, not that bad. The first two needle shots you feel most, whch is used to numb the area. Even those two are not that discomforting.
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Izzyblizzy
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Posted 6/25/2007 3:10 PM (GMT -8)
Hi,

Yeah it definitely sounds like he is avoiding it, but not sure if it is the perceived pain of the biopsy, or denial about the possible results. (or maybe both).

If it is the pain, (which I have heard others having, but Ken has really not found any of his three really painful), maybe could help him ask a list of questions when making the appt? Like any sedatives offered, how do they numb, etc. If it is mostly the pain of the biopsy involved and great fear of that, he could even ask for a referral to an outpatient center where they give you an IV sedative (like for colonscopy's), he won't remember it hardly. But I think most don't find the biopsy as worse as the anticipation.

If it is the mental block of "if i don't find out I have cancer, then I don't have cancer", then that seems like a more complicated issue. I would reassure him with several things 1) Entirely possible no cancer, 2) Even if cancer, it is a VERY curable disease, if caught early enough, 3) There are lots of treatment choices available, especialy at his age and caught early.

Maybe print him off some sucess stories, either from here or yananow.net ... it is not the most fearful cancer to have if caught early!

Best wishes, and let us know how it goes!
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kw
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Posted 6/25/2007 7:03 PM (GMT -8)
Maria, Grab him by the ear and drag him in there. Biopsies aren't fun...but they arent all that bad either. You need to know what your looking at!

Good Luck,

KW
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spinbiscuit
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Posted 6/25/2007 9:44 PM (GMT -8)
Hi Maria,

If my wife had not made my doctor's appointment for me; I might not have done anything about the PCa. She saved my life, and it's as simple as that.

Glen
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sween76
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Posted 6/25/2007 10:29 PM (GMT -8)
I had a biopsy one week after recommended by my doctor. It was scheduled when my doctor recommendd it.

I had read all the bad things about a biopsy but there was no pain.

I am convinced that part of my quick recovery was the fact that the cancer was caught so early.

Do not wait. After reading this message talk to your husband and help him get over this emotional issue. If he has cancer - right now it is growing. The sooner it is diagnosed the better.

Ed
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mozart250
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Posted 6/26/2007 4:48 AM (GMT -8)
Hi:
If pain of the biopsy is a concern; just make sure your practitioner provides a local anasthetic (lidocaine).

This should be standard by now, but the first Dr. I went to did not offer this.

I am the ultimate weenie, and the biopsy was not all that bad given the local.
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sterd82
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Posted 6/26/2007 5:37 AM (GMT -8)

I was VERY apprehensive about the biopsy...my uro gave me a valium and a demeriol to take an hour or so before coming in.  Completely took the edge off!

Looking back, the one thing I wish I had done different is to have my biopsy SOONER!

Good luck!

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bluebird
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Posted 6/27/2007 3:15 PM (GMT -8)
Hi   ~ MariaTeresa & Loved One,   A    “Special”   Warm Welcome   to   You!           I know we can “all” make Your Journey smoother ~ just by being here for you!   It’s already evident in the reply postings to your cry for help and in the responses to your 2 nd posting…  What about the enema you have to give yourself before the biopsy?   All of our hearts open up to you!   HealingWell    is exactly what you see ~ “all of us” working together ( in many different ~ but the same ) ways to make sure you have a smooth path to follow… Thank you for reaching out!!!     There are a lot of Helping Hands here… and just by reaching out like you did ~ you will have a much easier time.   Now ~ when you feel the time is right… lean over to that man of yours….wrap your arms around him and tell him… he’s just been hugged by the members of HealingWell.   Let him know… we “the members” have been where you are now…. Knowing you aren’t alone… makes a big difference in psyche and spirit.   We will always be here for you both!     Tell hubby ~ he will hear the biggest roar from “all of us”…. if his biopsy comes back “negative for prostate cancer”!!!   We’ve have a few that we have sent on their way ~ with a new knowledge for learning…. and understanding.     KNOWLEDGE   IS   POWER... and POWER   conquers fear   Please stay with us and continue to take our hands!   Keep posting.... OKAY!!     Once things settle down for you…. we invite you to visit our personal thread in the signature area below .   We are keeping you close in thoughts and prayers.     In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy   “God Bless You” It's a little prayer   ~   "God Bless You"   ...but it means so much each day, It means may angels guard you and guide you on your way.   (Direct Link ~ just click on the title below and a new window will open!   Reminder … click on the REFRESH icon once you get there) Helpful Hints ~ & ~ Direct Links to Important Topic Threads ~ Hope this helps you!! :)
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AEG
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Posted 6/27/2007 7:03 PM (GMT -8)
Hi Mariateresa

I agree with the other posts. You need to be proactive here and schedule the appointment yourself. From my experience, most doctors never follow-up and it's up to us to be on top of things especially when it comes to our health. Please keep us posted.

Best of luck.

AEG
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bob57
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Posted 6/27/2007 7:45 PM (GMT -8)

Mariateresa,

I agree with all of the others and want to add that the last thing in the world that you and your husband want to have to deal with is a cancer that has had a chance to metastasize. If the DRE was positive (irregular feeling) and his PSA rose that quickly, please don't wait to get it checked out.

Bob

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montee
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Posted 6/28/2007 12:31 AM (GMT -8)

Just as everyone has said above, don't wait, he has to find out what he is dealing with, it may be just nothing, a friend of mine psa jumped to 12, had biopsy and came back negative, put on cipro and now back to normal, mine was 4.7 and had 40% gland involvement, and positive DRE with nodule felt, please inform him to find out.

As far as biopsy, my urologist gives all his patients the twilight anesthesia or what the anethetists call "milk of amnesia", it's the same stuff they give you for a colonoscopy.  I don't remember a thing, 1st had an iv then the next thing I remember my wife was coming down the hall to get me.

I hope he finds out.

Ron

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Posted 6/28/2007 9:08 AM (GMT -8)
    It is believed now that a rapid rise in PSA is a serious warning that cancer might exist in the prostate. I would urge your husband to follow up immediately with his urologist. I had a rise in my PSA from about 1.8 to 4.1 over the course of 17 months. I had my biopsy and I ended up a Gleason 9 cancer and underwent hormonal therapy and radiation. So far, I'm doing well. The key to curing prostate cancer is getting it before any cells escape the organ. PSA is an imperfect way of screening for cancer. Some men have low PSAs, as I did, and very aggressive cancer. Others may have PSAs above 10 and no cancer. But the combination of what I assume are hard areas in his prostate and the sharp rise in PSA level over a relatively short time suggests to me that your husband needs to move now on obtaining a biopsy.

    Prostate Veteran

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myman
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Posted 6/28/2007 2:40 PM (GMT -8)
We haven't heard from you so here goes:

Had my husband gotten a yearly physical as he should have, he would not be in the situation he is now.

Oh, he had surgery...but it had already spread. And not locally. He has metastatic prostate cancer. See his stats below.

So, if your husband gets angry with you...if you fear that, then do this. Make the appointment. Whether he keeps it or not is up to him. That's all you can do at this point.

I wish you the best possible outcome, Mariatheresa, the best.

Susan
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kziz
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Posted 6/29/2007 8:43 AM (GMT -8)
Hi Marie, My husband too kept putting off follow up PSA and then when he finally, 2 or 3 months later and after 5 to 10 calls from the doc, he had another. It had risen and a biopsy was scheduled. Kurt almost cancelled the biopsy many times, and was ready to walk out of pre op before the test to get another opinion. He also chose to not tell anyone about the biopsy. He wound up with a very rare infection following the procedure, and I had to call his dad, sisters and very nervous by nature mother to explain it all. One week later, out of hospital, infection under control and results in. Cancer, gleason 6 on both sides. We made a decision within 4 weeks. After the surgery, 6weeks post biopsy, the pathology report showed that the cancer had reached the edges, just had not penetrated them. We were lucky, that we didn't put it off any more. So that being said, drad your husband there if you have too. If it is PCa, it is very curable, but even more so when caught early. Good Luck. Courtney
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pcdave
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Posted 7/2/2007 4:31 PM (GMT -8)
Hi Maria

Here is my story and hopefully your husband won't be as stupid as I was! Good Luck to him!

Dave

My Prostate Biopsy

I had a 29-core biopsy on September 27, 2006! I must confess that there was not much discomfort. A sedative was injected into my prostate (a little pin prick through my rectal wall into the prostate—then you could feel the sensation of the serum being injected). Then it was 29 clicks and we were done. So don’t be fearful of a biopsy—make sure that your urologist performing the procedure gives you some kind of sedation in your prostate beforehand. I was surprised at the number of samples taken, but it gives me greater assurance of my stage of cancer. If you have a biopsy, don’t settle for less than 12 samples; a minimum of 20 would be preferable. Having too few biopsy samples may not give you the best indication of your stage of prostate cancer which is critically important in selecting your treatment.

My Big Mistake—Don’t Be Afraid of a Prostate Biopsy

Over three years before my biopsy, my internist recommended to me to get a biopsy when my PSA jumped up to a little over 5. I didn’t like the thought of a biopsy and didn’t follow through. I then avoided a physical for two more years, at which time my PSA had jumped to over 8. At that time I panicked and quickly decided on getting a biopsy. I am still lucky to be in an earlier stage of prostate cancer, but I obviously would have been in a much earlier stage if I had taken my doctor’s advice. I am lucky that my prostate cancer appears to be slow growing.
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flippin out
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Posted 7/3/2007 3:31 PM (GMT -8)

He can Always try whatchfull waiting but I wouldn't nono

55 psa 3.4 up from 2.5 biopsy showing gleason 7 3+4 within the margins

I was accepted into doing Davinci robotics "Accepted" because I was healthy enough and at a good age for recovery "RECOVERY" happy to say its been a full recovery April 25th 2006 a day that will be remembered as a life savor. wake up and get rid of the Cancer. Good Luck !  

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