I read this and can't agree more on not only being your own decision maker, but also, giving yourself the best opportunities by not making snap decisions based on doctors evaluations. By now with my experience with this disease I fully understand the concept that noone is better able to make sure the right treatments are available to me and being done correctly but myself. This is a great post for our new posters as well as our veterans here at this site.
Important for all here:
You must educate yourself. If you are told you have cancer at any stage, you need to understand the stage, agressiveness, how it can be better or worse after treatment BEFORE you decide on a treatment. I believe a cancer educated person will fare better by taking the mystery out of cancer and treatment options. And if you still can't make the decisions easier, then perhaps look deep into the experience of the individuals examining you. I also believe anytime a person has been told that they have cancer, if you are not in a major cancer center, you need to be at least once before you decide on treatment. Major centers are a hot bed of experience. Neighborhood urologists and oncologists do not carry the same case load as a major center. And cost should not be a factor in getting a second opinion. This is your life.
That's my two cents worth, don't worry about