What a blessing you'll be able to take care of your father. I know it'll be good for both of you!
In the hospital, I wanted my own robe so I could walk around when I wanted to. It was difficult to tie the hospital gown, especially while I still had the IV in. It was much easier to put on my own robe and gave me more privacy while walking among the public visiting their loved ones.
When your dad wants to get up for a walk in the hospital, have him ask the nurse or assistant to empty the catheter bag before he walks. It can get heavy to carry with all the urine in it.
Also, when he gets up, have him watch the JP drain (attached to drain the fluids after surgery). I hit mine a couple of times and it was a little ouchy.
At home, the first problem was where to hang the catheter bag when in bed. We took a one of the rings you get at a stationery store that looks like a three ring binder ring and attached that to the mattress handle. I had an easy place to hang my catheter bag when I went to bed. It needs to hang below your body, of course, to drain properly. He may need help emptying the bag the first couple of days. He should be able to change to the smaller "leg bag" during the day.
Sleeping. Everyone is different, but I needed to sleep on my back to avoid messing around too much with the catheter tubing. Therefore my wife got me several pillows to change the elevation of my back and to support my legs when needed.
I found myself drinking a lot of fluids as well (mostly water) to keep the urine running clear.
Luckily, my wife forced me to rest a lot. He should do the same. He should not lift anything more than 10 lbs.
He may need some Milk of Magnesia when he gets home or such to keep the stool soft and frequency regular. A hard stool causes pain and some bleeding.
The doctor's office should have several sizes of pads when the cath is removed, but you may wish to buy a few of the men's version of the "Depends" pads and have them on hand. It is shaped a little better for men (wedge shaped) and that is what I was wearing for the first week and 1/2. Now I'm wearing the "unisex" pads (Poise brand). I buy the max protection size from Costco and save some money.
The level of incontinence varies for each individual, but I was dry during the evening each night. Daytime, plan to use several pads per day and when he travels, he may want the "full meal deal" depends which are more like a diaper. When he gets home, he may be able to use just the pad. Folks on this site have a lot of wonderful info on incontinence and what to do about it.
You're going and your father are going to do great. Just ask all the questions you can pre-op, you're in the driver seat.
Hope this helps a little.
All the best,
Biopsy: T1c, 3+3=6, 2 pos. samples in one side of prostate, <5% volume
Da Vinci 31 Jul 2007: saved nerve bundle on side of non-cancerous side
Final pathology: Confined to prostate, T2a, 3+3=6, <1% volumeWorking to get back into good shapeWaiting to take that first post-op PSA
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