Hi Maria Teresa, I can't help you with your choice of Surgeon, because I live in Perth Australia, but in my case we researched for a Urology Surgeon with a good track record for nerve sparing and incontinence. We eventually tracked down the man who we considered the best for us, and when we went to see him, he explained everything to us in detail, in regard to the nerve sparing, he said as the tumour was in the right side of my prostate, that nerve would not be able to be spared, but he could save the left one, he also said that 95% of his patients were continent after surgery, so we went with him, a most patient, caring man.
So I feel you should get a second opinion on the nerve sparing, and in fact consider the open surgery, it's really a breeze, compared to other surgery I have had, the surgeon told me that he preferred RP as he could feel and see the operation site better.
So here I am 30 days out from the op, Pca gone, and continent from day they removed the cath (exept when I sneezed a couple of times)
So I wish you and your man all the best for the future and a good outcome.
(For the benifit of anyone here in Perth WA the Surgeons name is Mr J. Judge)