I didn't have long term leakage problems, but I feel how upset you must be. I saw a physical therapist who gave me the confidence to move on.
Based on the comments on this forum, you are not yet into a long term in-continence situation.
As upsetting as this clean up problem is, there are other guys here who tell stories of major changes at four, six, eight months , even a year past surgery.
I think you are a long way from medication or surgery to correct this problem. Sometimes we have to deal with the frustration we feel. Your doctor should tell you to wait and be patient. Yeh, that's just what we want to hear.