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Missyj
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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 9/16/2007 4:14 AM (GMT -7)   
It's midday here in the UK and I am having my weekly fit of the blues
I don't know what it is about Sunday mornings that set me off but it's the same every week
 
I think my husband and family are just about taking in his diagnosis and it feels very scary
 
Although his cancer has spread quite a bit we just need to have hope that he can keep it at bay for as long as possible. Does anyone know of anyone in his situation who has done this?
I'm not asking for 'how many years' or anything, just a glimmer of hope that he 'could' remain in decent health for a while to come.
I'm scared to search the internet as I don't always like what I find!
 
Sorry, I don't want to make anyone feel down. I know Sunday is usually such an uplifting day - hope you all have a good one
 
Julia

War-eagle
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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 219
   Posted 9/16/2007 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   

Good morning Julia,

I know what you mean. I get the blues every week or so. It must be a very scary time for all of you. You will find the strength to get through that and, as I did, look deeply at my "new normal life". Your husband has a leg up on a lot of us. He leads a very active life and this will help with his battle.

My Sunday's are the best day of the week for me. My wife and I read the paper together, then go to the 9:00 am Church service. We then keep the 5 yr. olds in Sunday School. That makes my day and week. When ever I need to feel loved, the 5 yr olds will cover you up with it. What I am saying is that we have developed a routine to our lives, doing much more together. We and others around us give each other strength. I don't think about time any more in terms of years or months. It's right now that matters. I will not waste a single minute feeling sorry for myself or saying "why me, Lord". Your deep love for your husband comes pouring out in your posting. Use that love to enjoy every second together. Don't worry about time. Go places, do things, love deeper, love longer. One day can feel like a month with your kind of love for each other.

My PC is very aggressive, too. Much like what you have told me about your husbands. My Dr told me that there was not a cure for my PC. He has been upfront with me and my wife since day one. His best advice was to do what we wanted to do together and do them now.

Be strong and you both are in our prayers,

Walt (War Eagle)


Age: 54
PSA 43 7/2005
Biopsy 12/14 Gleason 7 & 9
Divinci 9/2005 - spread to bladder
HT - 10/2005
RT - 10/2005 (38 treatments)
PSA 0.12 to 1.9 2/2007
Bone Scan and CT 4/2007
Casodex 4/2007
Spread to Spine, rib, and pelvis
Zometa infusions 4/2007
PSA 4.9 8/2007


gtmriviera
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 338
   Posted 9/16/2007 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Missyj,  If you want to share a little more detail about your husband's situtation, history of treatment, etc I know that there will be members who can relate similar experiences.  I can only tell you that there are many people who have had PC for a very long time and they are still around.  I have an uncle who was diagnosed many years ago and he has never had surgery.  He has gone through hormone therapy and at age 80 he is still fairly active.  His PSA was around 1000 when he was diagnosed.

Missyj
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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 9/16/2007 9:38 AM (GMT -7)   

Walt, you have a very good attitude. Mostly I'm the same, enjoy life for now because we none of us know what's around the corner. It's great that you seek, and find, comfort from a variety of sources. Kids are brilliant aren't they?

I think I figured what it is about Sunday mornings - my husband is doing what he always does, lopping down trees, cutting the grass walking round the shop to get the paper etc working hard, being a good husband and dad and sometimes I feel so sorry for him it tears me apart. The consultant also told him if he had stuff he wanted to do he should do it sooner rather than later.

But good things have come out of it all. We are much kinder to one another, less likely to snipe or bicker about silly stuff, so that's good.

gtmriviera, thank you for your response too. I wondered if anyone could tell me how to put all the info in my signature so I don't keep bombarding people with the same information.

He was diagnosed in July 07 with a gleason of 8 (4+4)

PSA of 17

Bone scan revealed mets to spine, neck, rib, shoulder and pelvis

MRI revealed seminal vesicle involvement and extra (something like corpicsular - can't remember)

Started on Zolodex 10th August

Take care,

Julia

 

 


lawink
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Date Joined Oct 2006
Total Posts : 621
   Posted 9/16/2007 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Julia - - Welcome from Bob & I. We've been on vacation, so didn't see your first posts until we got back. Our warm good thoughts go out to you and our prayers too.

To add a signature line,
- click on "Control Panel" (right next to the log off button)
- click on "Edit Profile"
- scroll down to "Signature" and add your information
- remember to click on "submit" at the bottom to save the information.

This signature will then accompany your posts. If you sometimes have a quick answer for someone and choose to not include your signature information, you simply go into "post reply" . . do the reply and uncheck the box at the bottom regardiing signature and it will not post for that one posting.

Hope this helps.

;o) Linda & Bob
Bob (61) - Laproscopic Prostate Removal Sept 27, 2006.
2 of 12 malignant biopsy samples - gleason 3 + 3 = 6.
 
Pathology - cancer completely contained, even a second more aggressive, previously undetected cancer)
PSA UNDETECTABLE Nov 2006, Feb and May,2007.

Bob also has two secondary conditions -- Polycythemia (elevated red & white cells & platelets) and . . Myelofibrosis) -- If anyone has experience with or information on these, please email us.


Cedar Chopper
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Date Joined Mar 2007
Total Posts : 432
   Posted 9/17/2007 3:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Julia,

Linda's directions for creating a signature are excellent.
One thing though, the control panel box will not appear unless you are logged on.

Holding you both in warm thoughts and dreaming of incomprehensible miracles for us all.

CCedar
ICTHUS!

Missyj
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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 9/17/2007 11:58 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you for the Warm wishes, prayers and info, hopefully the details will appear at the bottom of this post

Sending you all hugs and positive vibes :)

 

Julia


Age - 59
Dianosed - July 07
Gleason 8 (4+4)
PSA - 17
Bone Scan - August 07 revealed mets to spine, neck, rib, shoulder and pelvis
MRI - August 07 revealed seminal vesicle involvement
Treatment - Zolodex started on August 10th
 

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