Please think of Rod tomorrow as he goes for the second attempt at surgery.

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   Posted 9/24/2007 6:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Rod was nervous two weeks ago when he went for surgery, but now he is really nervous and afraid that the complication with anesthesia will occur again. The specialist has told us that Rod is better protected this time because he has been on medication to protect his lungs for almost two weeks. Rod was really down and mad at everything the other day. He wants to sign a Do Not Resuscitate order. He said that if it doesn't work out this time, he's just going to take his chance and not treat the prostate cancer at all. He didn't want to schedule his next specialist appointment this morning because he said that if he dies on the operating room table that I'll forget to call and cancel the appointment.
I'm sure he doesn't really mean this. He's just tired of all this already. I keep thinking that if everything had gone as planned two weeks ago, he would probably already have the catheter removed.

I barely even think about the cancer because I'm too worried about his lungs and what happened last time. I forget that we still have a road ahead of us.

All of you are so dear and I have been telling everyone about this wonderful forum and website.

So hold us close in thought and prayer....I already know that you are!!!


Maria Teresa
Husband Age 55 Maria Teresa age 44
Total PSA 8 on 05/21/07
DRE: prostate bumpy
Biopsy on 07/16/07: 5 out of 8 cores positive, Gleason Score 8 (3+4+5)**
CT of the abd/pelvis; Bone Scan; Xrays done on 08/13/07: Normal
Robotic Surgery Scheduled for September 11, 2007 - Cancelled due to anesthesia complications
Robotic Surgery Rescheduled for September 25, 2007

**"Report to the Nation on Prostate Cancer" published by the Prostate Cancer Foundation, page 11: "In some cases, the pathologist might identify a third pattern, which is less common but that has a higher grade than either of the first two patterns that comprised the Gleason score. The presence of this third pattern might indicate that the tumor is more aggressive than the Gleason score would otherwise imply. For example, if a Gleason 4+3 tumor also has some grade 5 cells, the cancer would be considered as being of higher grade disease overall."

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   Posted 9/24/2007 6:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Maria Teresa,

You and Rod have certainly gone through a very difficult time, and I hope you will be able to just hang on a little longer. Please tell Rod we will all be praying for his successful procedure, and that it will be incident free. Good luck to you both tomorrow.

God bless you,

Diagnosed at age 60
PSA went from 2.2 to 3.8 in 14 months
2 of 14 cores positive at 10%
Gleason 6(3+3), negative DRE, neg. margins
DaVinci surgery on 02/23/06
Last PSA 08/26/07 @ 18 months "0"

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   Posted 9/24/2007 6:44 PM (GMT -6)   
We will have you both in our thoughts and please lean on all of us in this forum whenever you need to.  Take care.

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   Posted 9/24/2007 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
We pray that God guides the hands of the surgeons and wraps His armor of love, protection, and comfort around both You and Rob for the surgery tomorrow.
God Bless!
Ray & Avis
Age 59 y/o - Last 3-4 years of annual general health checkups - PSA 5-6
3/13/2007 - 12 point biopsy - Left 0/6  Right 1/6 Gleason 3+3 Diagnosed as T1c
4/24/2007 - DaVinci performed at Virginia Mason hospital in Seattle
5/2/2007 - Catheter Out! Final pathology of Gleason 6  T2c Nx Mx,   approx 20% of prostate involved, positive margin, but only at 2 focal points.  
6/28/2007 9 weeks post-op incontinance... Overnite, went from 4-6 soaked pads a day from prev 8 weeks to 2 barely wet pads a day.
7/12/2007 11 weeks post-op  Minimal leakage...  one small pad a day
7/18/2007 First Post-Op PSA...  0.01 !!! 
7/30/2007 ED improved to about 60% erection and "functional". Only using 50mg Viagra generic every 2-3 days.
9/10/2007 Ran out of pads one day and had no dribbles all day...  Now pad free. :-)

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   Posted 9/24/2007 7:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Maria Teresa & Rod,
We will continue to keep you tucked close in our hearts.  Our prayers are for peace as you head into surgery once again.  Our hands will be on your shoulders... and you will feel our presence.
Special thoughts coming your way filled with strength to help support you.
Warm Hugs from Lee & Buddy

mama bluebird - Lee & Buddy… from North Carolina


v          We invite you to visit our personal thread:  Click Here:  “Our Journey” ~ Sharing is Caring 

April 3, 2006  53 on surgery day

RRP / Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy

PSA 4.6   Gleason  3+3=6    T2a   Confined to Prostate

3rd PSA 08-07-2007 Less than 0.1 Non-Detectable :)

Mike A
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   Posted 9/24/2007 7:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Marie Teresa and Rod,
Will be thinking of you both tomorrow, and praying for a successful outcome.
June 2005 - Age 53 PSA 4.8 at regular physical
October 2005 - After several rounds of anti-biotics, PSA 5.2 at Urlogist
November 2005 - Biopsy negative
July 2006 - PSA 5.9 at regular Physical
October 2006 - After several more rounds of anti-biotics PSA 8.1
November 2006 - Second biopsy - Positive
December 2006 - Gleason (3+4=7), Tumor T1c, CT Scan and Bone Scan Negative
January 2, 2007 Robotic Prostatectomy, University of Rochester Medical Center - Tumor confined but larger than thought, only one nerve able to be spared. Margins clear.
February 2007 - Three to four pads a day, no erection with viagara.
March 2007 - Down to two pads a day, had first intercourse with Erecaid pump and bands, otherwise still flat tire.
April 2007 - First Post-Surgical PSA 0.02 and a great relief! Down to one pad a day. Still unable to achive erection without pump.
May, 2007 - Still one pad a day, even try a smaller pad on occasion. Slight improvement on the ED.
July, 2007 - Six Month Post-op: PSA 0.04 still Non-Detectable. One small pad/day for a few drops only! No change in ED.
"If patience is a virtue, I feel like the most virtuous guy on the planet!"

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   Posted 9/24/2007 7:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Maria Theresa,

You both have been through such a rough time already. I'm sure your on your last nerve but hang in there. It's never easy but the fact that surgery was postponed the first time just tells me Rod's doctors are through and acted in his best interests. Or he just might not be here at all.

Your Team will be here waiting to hear and praying for the best. I pray you both can come to some peace and get some sleep.

Husband Diagnosed 11/17/05 Age: 63 No Symptoms
PSA: 7.96, Positive DRE
Biopsy Right: 6 of 6 Cores Positive Biopsy Left: 1 of 6 Cores Positive
Gleason: 4+3 = 7 Stage: T2B N0 MX
3 mo. PSA Post LRP Surgery: 11.8, 12.9, 13.9 Bone scan, CT scan, Endorectal MRI, Chest XR - neg.
09/06/06: 6 mo. PSA: 18.8 Distant lymph node involvement Start HT Lupron 3 mo. shots
12/06/06: PSA 0.8
03/07/07: PSA 0.3
06/06/07: PSA 0.1
09/05/07: PSA 0.1

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   Posted 9/24/2007 8:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Maria & Rod - Thoughts and prayers are with you tomorrow. Just think, in 24 hours it will be behind you and you'll be on that other road . . .the one to recovery. All will be fine this time! Don't imagine any other outcome!

Warm wishes,
;o) Linda & Bob
Bob (61) - Laproscopic Prostate Removal Sept 27, 2006.
2 of 12 malignant biopsy samples - gleason 3 + 3 = 6.
Pathology - cancer completely contained, even a second more aggressive, previously undetected cancer)
PSA UNDETECTABLE Nov 2006, Feb and May,2007.

Bob also has two secondary conditions -- Polycythemia (elevated red & white cells & platelets) and . . Myelofibrosis) -- If anyone has experience with or information on these, please email us.

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   Posted 9/24/2007 8:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey MT and Rod,

Yeah, it really gets dark out sometimes. Seems like what we have to go through just doesn't make living worth it. I've been there. But taking just one small step at a time gets us through the darkness and soon the lights start coming on again. Please just take a deep breath and put your mind to rest once in a while. Our minds and bodies have a remarkable ability to endure - even the most difficult times. Nothing can get us down and out if we are determined to see this thing through. Just a few more hours and life can start getting better.

Focus on being calm. Banish all the "what ifs" from your mind - they have nothing to offer now. You have done the research, asked all the questions, posted your hearts here on the forum and made the decision to move on with the surgery. Thats all you can do - no more second guessing.

Now be assured that all of us here are hoping and supporting you with all we have to offer. Envision us holding you up, banish the fear from your mind. Then tomorrow, take your naked body, hope, confidence and a great attitude into the OR and do this thing!!!!!

You can do it. We can help...

Age 73. Diagnosed 11/03/06. PSA 7.05. Stage T2C Gleason 3+3.
RRP 12/7/06. Nerves and nodes okay.
Pathological stage: T2C. Gleason 3+4. Cancer confined to prostate.
PSAs from  1/3/07 - 7/18/07 0.00. 
T level on 4/2/07 - 48     On 7/16/07 - 613
Started Tri-Mix on 8/7/07.  .02 ml and 50 mg Viagra.  It works!!!
Next PSA and T tests on 10/17/07
"Patience is essential, attitude is everything."

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   Posted 9/24/2007 8:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Maria Teresa,
A lot of wonderful things have already been said by the good members of this forum.  I can only lend my support and assure you and Rod we will be praying for you this evening and tomorrow and "holding you very close," pondering the good things to come.  Like others have said, you now have a very short period of time and then you'll be over your first big step.
Kind regards,

Da Vinci Surgery July 31, 2007… 54 on surgery day
PSA 4.3  Gleason 3+3=6  T2a  Confined to Prostate

PSA 0.04 (undetectable) 9/11/2007

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   Posted 9/24/2007 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   

Maria Teresa,

You and Rod are in our prayers. I know what he means about the appointment. I have to do a 2008 business plan for work next week. I told them that I don't even buy green bananas any more. I guess that this is one way we deal with.

You both be strong and we will wait to hear the great post-surg. news. It WILL be great news.

Our love to both of you.

War Eagle to all.

Age: 54
PSA 43 7/2005
Biopsy 12/14 Gleason 7 & 9
Divinci 9/2005 - spread to bladder
HT - 10/2005 (Eligard every 6 months)
RT - 10/2005 (38 treatments)
PSA 0.12 to 1.9 2/2007
Bone Scan and CT 4/2007
Casodex 4/2007
Spread to Spine (L4 & T5), rib, and pelvis
Zometa infusions 4/2007
PSA 4.9 8/2007
PSA 4.9 9/2007

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   Posted 9/24/2007 9:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Maria Teresa,

May the Lord bless and protect Rod tomorrow and may he also comfort you. As a child of God Rod is in his hands and will receive the blessings of the Lord. May God also guide and direct the surgeons and operating room personnel to provide the most of their skills for Rod. I pray that at this time tomorrow that the peace of the Lord will have settled on both you and release the fear and anxiety that you both have been under now for two weeks.

God Bless!!

Diagnosed 7/6/06, 1 of 10 core samples, 40%,Stage T1c, Gleason 3+3
Da Vinci on 11/01/06, Catheter out on 11/13/06
56 Years Old
Post Op Path, Gleason 3+3, Approx. 5% of prostate involved
Prostate Confined, margins clear
Undetectable PSA on 12/18/06
No more pads as of 1/13/07
Began injections in April '07
Undetectable PSA on 6/25/07

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   Posted 9/24/2007 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   
We are all here with you MariaTeresa.
You will both get through this.
God bless you.
See you on the other side of surgery.

D.O.B - 8/9/52

PSA: First ever was 9.8 in late Oct. ‘06, two weeks later, 10.1

DRE: Negative

Biopsy results 11/22/06.  Both lobes involved.  Six out of eight cores positive - from 100 percent to 90, to 60, to 50, two 20s and two zeros.

Gleason 3+3 = 6

Da Vinci Robotic RP surgery, City of Hope, Jan 12, 2007

Post surgery pathology – Organ confined, Gleason still 6, margins clear.  Volume of tumor much less than biopsy suggested.  14 percent overall.

First post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 2/20/07

Second post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 9/11/07

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   Posted 9/24/2007 9:51 PM (GMT -6)   
M T and Rod, Keep the faith and know that our prayers are with you both, God Bless, Uncle Dan
Age 67
No symptoms, DRE negative
10-06 PSA 5.44 01-07 PSA, 6.47 CT and Bone scan negative
05-07 Biopsies, 2 of 6 positive, Gleason Score (3+4) 7 Stage T1c
08-14 Dr. Dasari - Baptist Hospital, da Vinci RAP, five hours surgery
Hospital 2 1/2 days, 8 -14 to 8 -16
Pathology report Negative margins, Cancer encapsulated,
Lymph nodes 2 R & 1 L - Negative, R & L seminal vesicles - Negative
Gleason changed (4+3) 7 closer to 8 than 6
9-20 Small infrequent leaks, Use pad when out, Sleeping without pad.

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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 9/24/2007 10:38 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi MT & Rod

God bless you both and as someone else here has already said in 24 hours it will all be behind you and you will began on the road to recovery. It sounds like you have good doctors who look out for the well being of the patient and won't continue with surgery if there is a lung problem. Be grateful for that I have heard some horror stories about Doctors that don't care. Again God Bless you both and we will be thinking and praying for a speedy recovery.

Best Wishes


Rick & Diana
6-30-06  PSA 2.54
1-22-07  PSA 4.98
1-26-07  PSA 5.09
Diag: 2-14-07 Gleason 8 Stage T1c PSA 5.09
Bone Scan 3-1-07 Clear
Radical retropubic surgery 4-2-07  Post surgery Gleason 9 Stage T3a Positive margins
4-29-07 PSA 0.02
6-9-07   PSA 0.02
7-6-07   PSA 0.03
8-1-07   CT Scan & Chest X-Ray   Clean

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   Posted 9/24/2007 10:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hang in there! I know things are going to go well. Knowing what they do now, your doctors are well prepared. By this time tomorrow, it will be over and you'll be concentrating on getting Rod back on his feet! God bless!
60 years old
Dx March 2007
Pre-Surgery Gleason 3+3 = 6
Clinical Stage: T1c
Biopsy: 1 in 10 positive
Da Vinci: June 7, 2007 
Post-Surgery Gleason 3+3 = 6
   Clear at margins
First Post-PSA Sept 07

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   Posted 9/25/2007 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Maria Teresa,

Both you and Rod are in my prayers. See you real soon on the other side.
Age: 49
Diagnosed: March 25, 2007
PSA: 3.0
Biopsy: Gleason 6, 5 out of 12 core samples positive for cancer with <5% on all 5.
DaVinci Surgery: May 21, 2007 at Florida Hospital, Orlando. Surgery took 1 hour and 45 minutes. According to my surgeon, prostate peeled away nicely and everything went text book. Nerves spared.
Pathology Report: Upgraded to Gleason 7 (3+4), Negative margins, seminal vesicles negative, lymph nodes left intact, 15% of prostate involved by cancer.
1st Post-op PSA: <0.01
2nd Post-op PSA: Scheduled September 27, 2007.
Continence: Out of pads 5 weeks post-op. Still have some minor stress incontinence from time to time but it's not an issue.
Erections: Yes! With the assistance of Cialis.
Family History: Father diagnosed with prostate cancer in 1997 at age 67. Prostate removed and has had a <0.1 PSA ever since.

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   Posted 9/25/2007 6:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Mariatheresa and Rod.

Dale and I are praying for you and know things are going to be just fine. Let us know how things are for Rod on the other side of the surgery.

Take care


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   Posted 9/25/2007 7:06 PM (GMT -6)   
All I can tell you is that I've said some things in the last few months that I've been sorry for and possibly Rod has too.  This is a really tough time for both of you.  People may think that along with cancer comes character, courage and a bunch of new insight about the meaning of life.  I got concern, confusion and blurry vision.  Try to be patient with his actions and just be there for him.  That's what we want and need even if we manly men don't say it. 

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   Posted 9/25/2007 7:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Amen, gtm.  I couldn't have said it better and have nothing to add -- YOU nailed it.
Mariateresa, when things calm down for you guys, let us know how you are doing.

D.O.B - 8/9/52

PSA: First ever was 9.8 in late Oct. ‘06, two weeks later, 10.1

DRE: Negative

Biopsy results 11/22/06.  Both lobes involved.  Six out of eight cores positive - from 100 percent to 90, to 60, to 50, two 20s and two zeros.

Gleason 3+3 = 6

Da Vinci Robotic RP surgery, City of Hope, Jan 12, 2007

Post surgery pathology – Organ confined, Gleason still 6, margins clear.  Volume of tumor much less than biopsy suggested.  12 percent overall.

First post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 2/20/07

Second post-surgery PSA -- Undetectable, 9/11/07

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   Posted 9/25/2007 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Maria and Rod,

I hope by this time the surgery is behind you and recovery is beginning.  My best to you.



P.S.  Me too gtm, me too.

August of 2006, PSA up to 4.2 from 2.7 one year ago. 
October free and total PSA 12% free and 5.0 total.
A month, or so later, 4.7.
Late in the year decide on Image Guided IMRT.
Begin 43 treatments on January 23, 2007 and finish on March 23.
Four month post treatment PSA is 1.9.  (This is a very good result.)
No side, or after effects.  None.
I have aged a year and am now 63.  How did that happen?

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   Posted 9/25/2007 10:01 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Maria Teresa and Rod,
You have been close in our thoughts and prayers all day.  Here's hoping that nightfall has brought relief and rest, along with much hope for the days to come!
With sincerity,


"Idaho" ~ Barry


Da Vinci Surgery July 31, 2007… 54 on surgery day
PSA 4.3  Gleason 3+3=6  T2a  Confined to Prostate

1st PSA 0.04 (undetectable) 9/11/2007

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   Posted 9/26/2007 10:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Hopefully you are done with the surgery. Here's to thinking of you two.

Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.

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   Posted 9/26/2007 11:57 AM (GMT -6)   

Our thoughts and prayers are with you for a succcessful surgery and a steady path down the road to recovery.



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