I just finished reading all of your wonderful posts and I went over to Rod and told him about
all of you and your posts and I became overwhelmed with emotions of gratitude!!! Thank you to all of you!!! Please believe me that we could not have done this without all of you!
We are on the other side!!! I've never seen so many nurses and doctors come to see a patient before surgery. They were all immensely careful that the same complication did not occur again. They also treated it as a possible latex allergy so they made sure the O.R. was free from all latex. They also injected several meds into his IV such as Benadryl and Hydrocortisone. I did get a bit of a scare half an hour after they took him to O.R. and I thought for sure something must have happened, but it was a nurse from the operating room calling me to let me know that the surgery had begun. Rod's demeanor in pre-op was much different than it was two weeks ago. He was self-assured and calm.
2 1/2 hours later, Dr. Menon came out to speak to me and my husband's brother. Everything went extremely well. Dr. Menon said, "Let's go down to the Chapel and say a prayer and then I'll take you to the third floor." I couldn't believe that this world-renowned surgeon could be so gentle, soft-spoken, and humble. Dr. Menon even thanked us for having faith in them. Just amazing! Dr. Menon took me and my brother-in-law to the third floor where we waited about
2 1/2 hours for Rod to be brought to his room. They wanted to take it slow with him in post-op because of his lungs. On the third floor we were treated like royalty. They gave me a complimentary chair massage! And they tended to our every need. Oh yeah, in the surgical lounge, an employee came around with a tray of snack food and they offered free specialty coffees.
I thought when I saw Rod he would look "not so good", but he actually looked very good!!! We stayed for a little while and then my brother-in-law and I left for the evening. So we spent a little over 10 hours at the hospital.
This morning my sister-in-law and I went back to the hospital because they were having a class on the catheter, wound care, and discharge instructions, but since there were only two patients they decided to do it individually. Oh yeah my husband was also given a private room. I think I heard that all of Dr. Menon's patients receive a private room. My husband also agreed to be part of a study to help benefit other men with prostate cancer. So anyways, the patient-teaching was very thorough. I also thought it was fascinating to learn that the drain that was attached to my husband's side actually had a very long tube attached to it that ran across the inside of his abdomen. It was totally fascinating to see the nurse pull this long tube out of Rod's abdomen! Rod said it felt weird. When we were leaving, one of the housekeepers gave Rod a beautiful carnation with a wishful message attached for his healing. She said she also had a bag of something for him, but we left before that.
And I already tried to reign Rod in because he just grabs his clothes, goes into the bathroom, drains his leg bag and gets dressed without even asking for help!!! I didn't like that he did that. Then he's walking up and down the hall looking for the nurse so that he can leave! And I was really surprised that the nurse asked him if he wanted a wheelchair and Rod said no because he needs to walk anyways. I always thought that they absolutely made sure you were in a wheelchair upon discharge. So we traveled back home and I went to the pharmacy while my sister-in-law stayed with Rod. When I came home he was sitting at the kitchen table which I thought wasn't such a good idea. But after awhile he said he needed to lay down. He doesn't like that I am fussing so much over him.
The discharge instruction sheet and other hand-outs have contained a lot of good information. I am also feeling much better about
dealing with the catheter. I had to buy Astroglide from the pharmacy for the tubing and hoped that no one saw me buying this product!
We go back next Tuesday to have a cystogram to see if the anastamosis has healed enough to remove the catheter. We have to stay around for a few hours to make sure that Rod can urinate. They will also go over the pathology report with us. I think the lymph nodes were removed because the discharge instruction sheet read, "pelvic lymphadenectomy". Rod also had to do an enema the morning before surgery in addition to the Dulcolax the night before because there have been patients in the past where the cancer had attached to the intestinal wall and as a precaution they wanted to make sure this area was clean in case they had to do additional surgery in this area.
My husband was told that he was the first patient from Michigan this week. All the others have been from out of state or country.
Okay I was just in the bathroom with Rod helping him change from the leg bag to the big bag. That was awkward, but Rod said we'll be better at it tomorrow. He's also feeling a bit cranky from the pain so I gave him the pain medication they prescribed.
If you lovely people would still keep praying a little longer that we get good news about
the pathology report, I'd really appreciate it!
Hugs and Kisses,
"MT" (whoever started that, I can't remember, but I like it!)
PS- Thank you also for all your wonderful words of wisdom, insight, and advice!