I know there is a bit of a difference with our ages here, but my husband has a number of past injuries/surgeries (self retired at 48 due to this), and was always very strong/accepting, with all that he had previously been through medically, but on getting dignosed with Pca, started to talk about
"falling apart" too, as it seemed the final straw for him. In fact, I think he used those very words, which is why I thought I would share it with you..it took some talking through (me doing much of the talking/prompting!!)...
I reassured my husband, as you are doing with your husband, and it lasted only a few days. We had only been married for 6 years ourselves, so perhaps this is also relevant to both our situations? You might find this may pass. I always remember my mother's favourite quote in many situations "This too shall pass".. I am not sure who said it, but it works for me! She has said it to me a few times this year!
When starting a new life in marriage we did not think we would ever have to face this, and I think my husband felt he had let us all down in some way. I explained that health issues are outside of our control, and it had nothing to do with his personal responsibility. I hope this makes sense... when I saw how my husband was seeing it from his point of view (in light of him being the one with health problems at the time), I could reassure him further that we would get through it all. He then improved and stopped talking himself down. It sounds like your husband is in good health, so this is probably similiar to what my husband was feeling emotionally (although different of course in other health aspects & age-group).
Keeping you and he, in my prayers too. Good luck with the waiting which is always so hard in this situation. So glad you your are soon to get answers, and can then move forward together. Lana.
Creed_three (Lana & CJ)
Husband CJ aged 49 yrs.
First PSA 3.5 (Nov 06). 1 x (5%) core of 12 positive at biopsy. 11 cores negative. Open Radical Prostatectomy with nerve sparing, on Tuesday 17th April 2007 (Sydney, Australia). Gleeson 3 + 4 = 7. Cancer confined to prostate. Margins all clear, including bladder neck and seminal vessicles.
1st PSA 0.01 - undetectable (June 07)
2nd PSA 0.02 - undetectable (Oct 07)
Post Edited (creed_three) : 10/21/2007 8:05:10 PM (GMT-6)