Posted 10/22/2007 10:50 AM (GMT -6)
Thanks, KD. My husband has a great sense of humor so I'm sure that will help with their connection - althought Jeff liked him right away anyway. Before he left he asked Jeff if was suffering from any depression and we both started laughing, because we've been so discouraged and no one has ever asked us that. He also commented on how we'd been together a long time (married 25 years this Dec.) and we had to take care of each other and not let anything affect that. I really appreciated his encouragement.
Lana, I feel like Jeff has definitely lost some of his spark, to the point where I feel like we've lost some of the good dynamics of our relationship, and it's so painful. My problem is that those emotions of loss get mixed in with the feelings of loss for my dad, and now my son being gone and it feels so overwheliming and draining, and it's difficult to see past it. Jeff is actually going to see a counselor on Wednesday to get some help working through some things - just areas where he withdraws and he doesn't know why. I may go myself, too. It's a good counselor that we went to for a couple of months about 12 years ago when we were going through some stuff - he gets right to the point and doesn't pull any punches or let you make excuses for yourself, and I need that.
I have gotten away a lot this year, but unfortunately most of the time it was dealing with my dad's illness and estate, and then to help my sister when she had a baby. That was nice but didn't afford much time to reflect. I've been trying to do more of that, spend more time in prayer, really trying to discern some of the things I struggle with. It takes time..
Thanks for your encouragement, and I'm glad you see your husband regaining some of his confidence. It makes a big difference, I'm sure. Please keep me updated on how that goes - I know Jeff is struggling with that.