I am also a new member and now 6 weeks after DeVinci surgery. Getting better every day and looking forward to starting vacuum rehab. There is a wealth of encouragement and knowledge in this group and I feel so fortunate to have found the site. We would worry about you if you didn't "dwell" on your upcoming surgery at least some every day. Bring your concerns, no matter how small, here to share with these wonderful, caring individuals and the answers seem to flow from everywhere.