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   Posted 11/12/2007 4:50 PM (GMT -6)   
If there is sex after surgery, is there any semen?  Is it bloody?  For how many times?
Is the urine in the catheter bag bloody?  Red, pink, clots or what?  What is normal, or when does normal happen? 
What is the right cream to put on the penis where the catheter goes.  Polysporin or Neosporin, or other.  How much can it be used, once a day, or several times a day.
Do the guys need a pad or something on when the catheter is in?  What do you suggest.
I went to the store and bought baggy boxers, and some pads for men and some adult diapers, and am trying to get all my supplies ready and Christmas shop at the same time.
I am reading all I can find, but am in need of details.  Thanks all. Robotic Surgery Dec 14
Les and DB

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 11/12/2007 5:13 PM (GMT -6)   
The orgasm's are dry and sterile. The urine was only bloody for the first day after surgery, but it varies patient to patient. Just a tint of red for me, but it was gone in one day. Your doctor will prescribe Lydocaine for the catheter tube. No pads are usually needed until the catheter is removed. I actually liked the sport briefs from Hanes because they prevented any shifting of the catheter while walking. One more thing the ladies here will laugh at...When I wore loose fitting underwear the pad came loose and the sticky side ended up facing the wrong way. Er...the pad had to of course stick to me better than the underwear...you might just want to prevent that any way you can.

Age 45 (44 when Dx)
Pre-op PSA was 19.8
Surgery on Feb 16, 2007
Post-Op Pathology was poor: Gleason 4+3=7, 4 positive margins, Stage pT3b (Stage III)
HT began in May, '07 with Lupron and Casodex 50mg
IMRT radiation for 38 Treatments ending August 3, '07
My PSA did drop out after surgery to undetectable.  It has not returned and I will continue HT until January '08.
My Life is supported very well by family and friends like you all.

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   Posted 11/12/2007 5:39 PM (GMT -6)   
The Foley could have colors ranigng from clear to yellow to orange/red or pink to red tinged urine. Small clots are normal also.

Neosporin is fine for the tip.

No semen, no ejaculate after surgery. On occasion men may leak a small amount of urine for a while after surgery. Happens and we deal with it. Never meant anything one way or another to us. Sex has never been a tidy sport anyway :>)

Here here...boxer breifs are a winner :>)

Some need a small pad, yes. TC has a good idea...

Good Luck :>) Swim

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   Posted 11/12/2007 5:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Less & DB,

Orgasms after prostatectomy do not have any semen. In some cases you may have some drips of urine. This can occur more frequently the first few weeks/months after surgery and get better over time. The urine in the catheter bag may be pinkish and have some small clots in it but this is normal and nothing to worry about. I used Neosporin on the penis tip while the catheter was in and applied it just about eveytime I emptied the bag. I had no need of a pad while the catheter was in. The only time I had any leakage around the catheter was during bowel movements which is common. I normally wear briefs and that is what I wore with the catheter in. They helped to stablize the cathter and hold the penis in once place. They also support the testicles which can help reduce any swelling in that area. I do not think that the diapers will be needed. If you bought male undergards, which is an absorbant pad made for men, then this should handle any leakage.

Diagnosed 7/6/06, 1 of 10 core samples, 40%,Stage T1c, Gleason 3+3
Da Vinci on 11/01/06, Catheter out on 11/13/06
56 Years Old
Post Op Path, Gleason 3+3, Approx. 5% of prostate involved
Prostate Confined, margins clear
Undetectable PSA on 12/18/06
No more pads as of 1/13/07
Began injections in April '07
Undetectable PSA on 6/25/07

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   Posted 11/13/2007 8:52 PM (GMT -6)   

  tongue Hey ~ Les & DB,


I’m glad you got Dr. Walsh’s book….  Take your time and read through it.  It will give you a really good foundation to help you with “Your Journey”.  Even having the DaVinci… it will help guide you and take away some of the fear that you will encounter.  Buddy & I read the book together… (not Chapter 12) see our thread for more on this!!!!


We had the same questions....  confused

Buddy & I invite you to read “OUR JOURNEY” located in our signature below and we hope you will pull from our experiences…  things that will help to make your path a little smoother.  Everyone’s journey is the same but different.  Reading as many threads/postings as possible will give you many options to choose from.  What works best for you!!! 


Excerpt from “OUR JOURNEY”…

Prostate cancer... is an “US / WE” disease and must be treated as an “US / WE” Journey. 

Make this a “team” journey…. Do everything together.  You will need each other and each other’s strength!


“Hand-in Hand” “Heart-to Heart”… nice words borrowed from Tim G…


You will both do fine!!!  Getting in the best physical shape and continuing to have a strong positive mind frame is very important for both of you!!!


Keeping you close as you move forward toward surgery day…  We will all be right here for you.

Continue to reach out ~ In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy

mama bluebird - Lee & Buddy… from North Carolina


v          We invite you to visit our personal thread:  Click Here:  “Our Journey” ~ Sharing is Caring 

April 3, 2006  53 on surgery day

RRP / Radical Retropubic Prostatectomy

PSA 4.6   Gleason  3+3=6    T2a   Confined to Prostate

3rd PSA 08-07-2007 Less than 0.1 Non-Detectable :)

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