Thank you for being so open and frank in this discussion. I too did not want to offend anyone but sometimes thers are no alternatives to description of some problems.
The angling more down then horizontal is more so since surgery. To try to compensate, I did increase my dose from 0.07cc to 0.08cc thinking the erection would get harder and therefore stand up more. It did help with both hardness and slightly more horizontal rigidity. Also, insertion was easier and it stayed in without slipping out for about one minute until I climaxed at which time it did slip out because I lost some of the rigidity. I usually climax early which is another problem which I wish I could correct. The dosage increase was great and satisfying in many ways but the additional discomfort of aching was definetly bothersome. This time my erection did not recover in fullness after climax but stayed at about 70% for some time. This increase in dosage was on the left side of my penis. I will try this one more time on the right side which tends to not give me as strong a reaction.
My wife has begun holding the base of my penis to maintain penis insertion also and it is very helpful up until I release. The possible slippage is a constant fear that does not allow one to perform with ease but rather with anxiety which tends to distract as you say. Perhaps we should entertain a different position which I have given little thought.
An additional issue that mostly affects males is climaxing too soon. I have always been that way but really did not recognize this as an issue until afew years ago when my wife and I climaxed at the same time. This has happened about three time in 40 years and those three times are still very memorable moments. I wish I coule regain control to make that happen more often. I am currently taking Zoloft which is an antidepressant that reduces anxiety with a side effect of delaying climax. In the early stages so far I have not noticed any difference in climax time. Manual stimulation does not seem to be a problem. Only during intercourse.
Any additional thought on the above would be appreciated.
Thanks again and if I appear to out of line someone please correct me. These are issues that you don't have to many folks to talk to about that one can relate with. The openess is new and refreshing and allows fresh air to come in. It certainly is a relief to not keep those things inside but rather share them.