The more the surgeons are in surgery getting their stats and experience level up, the more they rely on their nurses for routine questions and the common/simpler problems.
If you "transfer in" from another physician that did the biopsy and helped you through the decison process, this also limits contact as you the P.C. patient shouldn't wait more than necessary.
Even when you make an appointment for a consultation with the surgeon (as you rightfully wish for the pathology report) - even with the best intentions to give you all the time you need, the nature of their business is that things come up unexpectedly.
I had an appointment cancelled as I arrived when my surgical team was suddenly called to E.R. for some nephrology procedure on a teenager.
That being said, after you are respectful of these demands on the physician,
you must be firm to get the answers you want from the physician
I'd bring my spouse or close relative/friend and bring something to read for both of you in case you have to wait a bit - unexpectedly.
Bring a list of your questions and politely make it clear you need to talk with the Surgeon about each question.
I wouldn't try to pin her/him down on things like "Exactly how long until I'm continent?" or
"Exactly when will I overcome E.D?" , etc.
Besides the fact no one knows the exact answer on many topics for each patient,
physicians are cautious about either building up expectations or feeding pessimism.
Surgeons can be "gun-shy."
Disappointment can lead to at worst mis-guided litigation or at the least "bad press,"
- while unbridaled pessimism can seriously retard recovery.
Hold on to the "best-case scenario" and deal with the tough issues and decisions only as they come up. Worry never helps.
I hold out the best for you from the highest source I can imagine,
- that indominateable Light you can hear, smell, feel, & touch
- with your eyes closed.....