Well said Cedar!!!
I am so sorry to hear your news. I too was devastated when we got a call from my father's surgeon regarding his pathology report. I cried for weeks non-stop..and still have the occasional melt down, but like Cedar said, there is hope. My father's pathology report showed a positive node and a focally positive margin.
I read everything I could and was so distraught with everything I found regarding node positive cancer. Thankfully, his PSA came back low, however, everything I read says 90% chance of recurrence. It's heartbreaking. Therefore, I hope and pray every day for my father that he will be in the 10% of the individuals that will not have recurrence. Until then, we are being proactive. He started Lupron on the 3rd of this month. I sent him Vitamin D 3, Lycopene, Selenium and he and my mom are adopting a Medeterranian diet. He will most likely begin radiation in a month or two. It is hard, but there are options and HOPE! You can't lose sight of hope.
Dr. Snuffy Meyers book was a great resource and like many others on this site, I highly reccomend it!
My thoughts and prayers are with you both!