Hey, lansarra. Sorry you are not feeling well. It's hard to understand your post since there are no punctuation marks or paragraphs.
I think what you are saying is that you are having problems with eating because you feel sick when you eat. The digestive system is a very complicated system, and it often takes a long time to sort out what's going on. It would be helpful if you could be more organized in your thinking about this, and provide more information in your questions.
One of the most common intolerances is to lactose, the sugar in milk. Almost every human being has some level of difficulty digesting lactose after the age of 3. Sometimes you can have more problems than other times, especially if you have had a stomach virus.
To find out if lactose is cause you problems, an easy test is to drink a glass of milk on an empty stomach, like first thing in the morning. If you have a lactose intolerance problem, you will know within 15 minutes because you will feel a lot of gas build-up in your stomach that will lead to belching and/or diarrhea. If this happens, you should try hard to avoid lactose.
You can either eliminate dairy products from your diet, or choose lactose-free products like yogurt, hard cheese and lactose-free milk, and buy supplemental lactase to eat with any other kind of dairy meal (like pizza, which is made with a soft cheese and has a lot of lactose).
This is just a suggestion.
50 yrs old, IBD diagnosis in spring '01. Proctitis, gastritis, ileitis.
Pentasa (3g/day)generic Colazal ( 96 pills/day), Sulfazine (1.5 g/day), Prevacid, folic acid, vit. D (2K iu), flax seed oil (2 tsp/day), psyllium (1/2T daily), mesalamine enema as needed. Gluten free as of 5/30/11. Colonoscopy found no evidence of inflammation on 8/16/1