Can you control your stress

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ToughKicker
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   Posted 4/6/2008 9:31 AM (GMT -7)   
 I have a question everyone, I've been wanting to look for a job & go back to school, but I'm so scared because I can get stress easily. So I'm wondering can you control your stress? Right now I'm hoping that my workouts & watching comedy shows will help keep my stress under control, but I'm wondering is it possible to control the stress? confused
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jujub
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   Posted 4/6/2008 10:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I think people can control their reactions to stress to varying degrees. Exercise is a good one, humor is another. Try to have friends who will understand and support you, whether you choose to tell them about your condition or not.

Here are some questions I've learned to ask myself when I start feeling stressed:

Can I control this situation? If not, let it go.
Does this person bring negativity to my life? If so, can I get them out of my life? If yes, kick them to the curb. If not, limit your exposure to them as much as possible.
What's the worst thing that can happen if I do this (or more commonly, if I do nothing?) Follow the thought through - usually the worst thing that can happen isn't really as bad as your anxiety was telling you.
In 100 years, what difference will it make (usually attached to "if I do/don't do this?) If no difference, relax and do what seem right to you.
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Old Hat
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   Posted 4/6/2008 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Time management issues come into play when one is holding down a job while taking classes. You have to allow yourself enough time for rest/relaxation as a regular part of your routine so that stress doesn't build & upset your health. If you try to prioritize your needs & interests, you can first pursue what's most important, then add on a next step, etc., as you feel up to it. My take on the stress dilemma-- because I'm not a great multi-tasker. / Old Hat (nearly 30 yrs with left-sided UC; currently on 3 Colazal daily for maintenance of remission)

jujub
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   Posted 4/6/2008 12:10 PM (GMT -7)   
I totally agree with Old Hat. Start one thing - job or school - and give yourself time to adjust. Then if you're doing well add in the second thing a little at a time. Work then take a few classes or go back to school then work a few hours. Learn what your own abilities are, and proceed based on that.
Judy
 
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quincy
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   Posted 4/6/2008 1:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Start, trust yourself that you can set up a few options to get you to a goal. It's not an all or nothing....it's a one-step-at-a-time process.
 
Stress is what we need in order to live (the kind that gets the body pumping and motivated).  Even the fearful kind can be a motivator for some people.

Little goals of making and achieving plans will help aleviate some of the fear.  You'll have to learn a different statement that will help encourage you to do what you need to do in order to take the steps or even leaps.

Your goal should not be to CONTROL your stress...you will not succeed. Your goal should be to set up enough options where you won't see yourself as failing at every step.

Establish a  support system of friends/family/resources in the college. It all takes time.

I can relate big-time...and I can destroy any event with one thought and belief if I want.  Yes, I still do it. 

Therapy helped a lot...but it's an on-going process for some to trust ourselves that we can do what we need to do in order to succeed.

Remember succeeding is subjective. Just getting up in the morning for me is a success.
Small goals to see you succeed rather than setting up one goal that will have you believe if you don't do it you won't be successful. All the successful people out there never have only one goal.....they do, however, have many options to get to many goals. They also allow themselves to change the plan at any time.

Trust you can start the process.
 
I recently saw Jack Canfield on PBS and he stated that if we think only of what we can't do or what's negative in ourselves or others, that's all we'll see/experience because that's that we've programmed ourselves to connect with.

quincy


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Post Edited (quincy) : 4/6/2008 2:24:08 PM (GMT-6)


pb4
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   Posted 4/6/2008 2:35 PM (GMT -7)   
You have to learn not to sweat the small stuff before you can move onto controlling the bigger things, things that are less out of your control...mentally preparing yourself for having "accidents" for example, if you decide that as unpleasant as it is to have them that you won't let it dictate your life to you then you'll deal with the stress of it much better.

I'm all for using reverse psychology on yourself if it helps you deal with stress in general.

:)


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