Start, trust yourself that you can set up a few options to get you to a goal. It's not an all or nothing....it's a one-step-at-a-time process.
Stress is what we need in order to live (the kind that gets the body pumping and motivated). Even the fearful kind can be a motivator for some people.
Little goals of making and achieving plans will help aleviate some of the fear. You'll have to learn a different statement that will help encourage you to do what you need to do in order to take the steps or even leaps.
Your goal should not be to CONTROL your stress...you will not succeed. Your goal should be to set up enough options where you won't see yourself as failing at every step.
Establish a support system of friends/family/resources in the college. It all takes time.
I can relate big-time...and I can destroy any event with one thought and belief if I want. Yes, I still do it.
Therapy helped a lot...but it's an on-going process for some to trust ourselves that we can do what we need to do in order to succeed.
Remember succeeding is subjective. Just getting up in the morning for me is a success.
Small goals to see you succeed rather than setting up one goal that will have you believe if you don't do it you won't be successful. All the successful people out there never have only one goal.....they do, however, have many options to get to many goals. They also allow themselves to change the plan at any time.
Trust you can start the process.
I recently saw Jack Canfield on PBS and he stated that if we think only of what we can't do or what's negative in ourselves or others, that's all we'll see/experience because that's that we've programmed ourselves to connect with.